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writes: My 5 year old sister *Tiffany* (she has trouble making friend) lives with me and my girlfriend for personal reasons. My girlfriend set up a play date with one of her friends. Her friend brought her son *Bryan* (also 5) the play started out fine until *Bryan* began throwing colouring pencils at *Tiffany* started throwing them back. Soon it was out of control. *Tiffany* and *Bryan* was in a time out. My girlfriends friend took her son home.The next day at school (they both go to the same school) *Bryan* pour paint out my sister shirt. I teach my sis her not put up with crap from anyone and she slash her paint water on his jeans so it look he pee himself. Again it was out of control then the teacher sent them home early.My girlfriend and me had to see her teacher she had enough. She said *Tiffany* wasn't getting along with other kids especially with *Bryan*. *Tiffany* and *Bryan* are always fighting about toys or something like that.I to talk my sis and she says *Bryan* usually starts it and shes doing what I told her to do.*Bryan* once even throw blocks at her and give her a blooding nose.I don't know what to do anymore. Help Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (26 October 2008):
Dude you are on here with questions every 2 minutes and none of us are experts at childcare.
Why not talk to your social worker / doctor / school and ask if there are any parenting classes in your area. Also, get yourself down to the book shop and buy some self help books.
I know you are both young and have been thrown into this situation without asking for it.
Here are some websites for you to do some reading on:
http://www.raisingkids.co.uk/ski/Ski.asp
http://www.parenthelpline.ca/revised_2006/home_eng.html
http://www.familylifecanada.org/
Just put parent help into google and there are a million sites with experts much better than us.
As for your problem, telling her not to take crap = good. Her misunderstanding that and getting in fights = bad.
Tell her that she must not fight back and do naughty things to Bryan and that as soon as he does something nasty then she has to go and tell the teacher, then he will get punished and she will not. Also tell her to try and be nice to Bryan everyday until he is mean and then he won't want to be mean. If you don't do that she might just sit and provoke him till he does something and then run and tell.
Tell the teacher you have told her to do this so she maybe coming and telling on him A LOT in the next couple of days.
This is as much a problem with Bryan as it is with your sister. It might be good to get them together and make them both apologise and shake hands. Childish I know - but they are kids so it will work.
Good Luck!! xx
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