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writes:Me and my boyfriend has broke up for almost 4 months, he was the one who broke up with me.I recently found out me and my ex are going to the same climbing event. There will be around 20-25 people going. It's a online meetup group event, and I've gone a few times but never saw him there. I knew he has been joining another climbing group but I didnt know he will go to this one too. He probably doesnt know I will be there since unlike him I didnt use my full name and a selfie for my profile. We've remained friendly w each other. We have ran into each other on the street recently. He was the one who saw me and shouted out my name. It really caught me off guard and I felt like I act a bit awkward, and I was with a friend who thought my reaction was both awkward and hilariousWhen he shows up at the event, should I just take the initiative and go to him to say hi first, or act like I don't know he's there and act surprised if he says hi to me first?
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (15 November 2013):
 I'd just smile at him if you see him - if he comes over to see you then fine, if he doesnt then just smile and carry on chatting to your other friends.
Dont go rushing over there to say hi, that's a bit keen and a bit weird - like you were waiting for him to arrive. But acting surprised and faking a reaction is wrong as well, you know he is going so dont try and create a daft story otherwise you will get caught out.
All you need to do is smile at him - you dont need to go over and say hi, but dont ignore him either. He broke up with you and by the sounds of things you didnt want to break up so you dont need to be overly friendly with him - he hurt you and its OK to feel that way, you dont have to be his best friend when he hurt you. But equally dont ignore him as that is a bit childish.
Smile and leave it at that - if he comes over have a quick friendly chat, if he doesnt come over then dont worry about it and enjoy your event.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2013): In a way it doesn't sound like you're totally over him which is understandable because he broke up with you, not the other way around.The fact he broke it off, let it go! Stop checking if he is or is not in the group. Stop worrying if he will or will not be there. Who will greet. How you will greet. Just let it go...Focus on the activity, the fun, the other people there, and don't specifically look for him. If you happen to see him, whoever spots first can greet seeing as you're on greeting terms, but that is it. You are an EX, so don't hold hope and instead focus on you and your life.Eventually you will get over him, and there will be someone else. Also be prepared for the day he brings someone else with him. Yes, that too will happen, brace yourself and prepare your heart, as he moved on.Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2013): You have the advantage of knowing he is going to be there. Try and exercise to vent off the excess energy/nervousness. I personally would act surprised. Greet and keep the conversations short to avoid him getting under your skin. Just greet and excuse yourself to talk to someone else. Relax, Relax and remember you can treat him as just a friend. I would also attach myself to another guy just to give me the added comfort and confidence that he is not the only guy in the group.
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