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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi to all,First a little intro:About a year ago I decided to lose my virginity just so I could see what the fuss was about(I was 19).Before that I was masturbating for years so I wasn't concerned about hurting or stuff like that.(Never with a dildo)Anyway we did it and even though he was a little rough it didn't hurt and there wasn't any blood.It wasn't that great either. So I decided never to do it again.I still masturbate regularly, this time with a dildo, but it HURTS.If I go more than 10cm(4 inches) it hurts like hell.I relax myself and it's not that tight but I still can't.I'm certainly no virgin and I don't care about that, I'm interested why it hurts so much when I've supposedly 'pop-ed my cherry'? Thanks a bunch for reading till the end:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2012): well some girls do just have smaller vaginas then others. but you may want to see an obgyn just to make sure theres nothing up there . (some girls develope small growths that can cause deep sex to have a pulling feeling ) but you may just need to slowly go deeper. also (this is emberassing but .. you may need a freind, bf,gf,bff to hold a mirror unless you have one where you could see.. and spread it open to see if anythingseems out of place)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo I have not went to see a gynecologist.
But maybe its time to stop avoiding the problem and ask a professional.
Thank you all for the input and a have an appointment to make.
Although it feels worse than the dentist:(
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (15 September 2012):
 You may be aiming the wrong way. You may be trying to push something too large into an opening that isn't relaxed or lubricated enough. You may simply not be aroused enough that the vaginal canal does its ballooning thing. You may have some underlying anatomical issue that needs diagnosis (uterine prolapse, for example).
A simple question: have you seen a gynecologist?
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reader, lmao1989  +, writes (15 September 2012):
 As Candid Cally says you must ensure you're lubricated because if you're not it will hurt because it won't slide in easily and won't be pleasurable for yourself.
Also even though you say you're relaxing because you know it hurts you maybe still be tensing sub consciously because you've experienced the pain before.
Try using a water based lube on the dildo that may help and make sure you're lubed up too.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (15 September 2012):
Are you lubricated when you are beginning to use the dildo? If not, it can catch on the delicate tissue inside you and cause irritation and abrasions.
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