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writes:I need help!!! I'm 25 I've been married for 3 years, but been with my husband for 8 yrs. I feel like i have fallen out of love with my husband. My husband and i have been through some very rough times. He has been unfaithful and has put me through a lot of emotional stress/abuse.I found out he was cheating just days after giving birth to our now 2yr old daughter.I forgave him but was never able to forget. Well just recently the tables have turned!!Now he's completely devoted to me and our family and he's trying so hard to make us work. But now i'm the one that doesn't feel the same. I don't want him touching me, I don't like the way he kisses anymore, I don't enjoy the sex anymore. To make things worse i met someone a few months ago and I cheated. I know this is going to sound bad but I didn't feel bad at first. But now i've gotten to the point where I don't know what to do!! I don't want to lose my family because i know that in the long run my daughter is going to be the one affected. I can't sleep at night thinking "What should I do?" help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): I'm in the same situation as you. I forgave my husband for cheating but I can't forget, his done his utmost to prove to me how sorry he is and to prove to me how much he loves me, but I've slowly fallen out of love with him, whenever he says he loves me or tries to get close to me all what his done and the pain his put me through comes rushing back into my head. I've been trying to save our marriage for nearly 3years, but i've come to realise you can't make yourself love someone. So now i've just got to pluck up the courage to tell him its over. I don't think your loose your family, the only thing your loose is him and the worry your going through. I understand your concerns for your little girl, if you did split from your husband, but she is very young and she will be ok as long as you and him can be civil to each other in front of her, during the breakup and after. If you are completely sure you don't love him any more and you don't want to be with him, then it would be best for all of you to finish it sooner rather than later. Good luck x
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