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writes:Just seeking some general advice. I am a 21 year-old female and I am looking for a good way to make some new friends, preferably girls. All my life I've been a person who was very shy and socially awkward. I moved around constantly, and was thus taken away from whatever friends I did have numerous times. During my middleshool and highschool days, I loved the couple close friends I did have, but had trouble making any new ones. Plus, they changed once they realized that boys existed. I've moved at least ten times since I was two years old, and I still try to maintain the long-distance friendships that I've acquired. But it sure does make getting a cup of coffee or taking a shopping trip difficult.I've also been in a serious relationship for about two years now. We are engaged, and he truly is my best friend. I love him dearly and enjoy his company like no other. But even as I type this, I'm listening to the ESPN football announcer wanting to ring a chicken's neck! There are just certain things you need girl friends for. I've even attempted to become friends with my partner's ex whom he hates! Not very healthy, if you ask me...I'm pretty attractive so I'm told, which actually make a lot of girls resent me. I've never been too keen on my looks (I've had low self-esteem all my life), and I don't do any kind of drugs, which a lot of girls around here seem to do. The only girls I work with are two to four years older than me and don't seem to get along with me. I've become so used to hanging out with my fiance and his friends that I feel I've lost some of the social etiquette that comes with being a girl surrounded by other girls.Also, at this point I don't have much money. My fiance and I just made a move across the country (literally from Washington State to Florida, and then back again). So I'm renewing friendships that were left behind a few short months ago. My fiance is also still trying to get a job, so it's very stressful on both of us. It's also not allowing us to start back to school right away, which is just another place to make friends that's taken off the table...If anyone has any tips, I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you all.
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reader, loveistheanswer +, writes (6 December 2010):
 well one tip is to not limit yourself to girls your own age, if your peers are not the type you savor (they wouldn't be my type either)... keep your reach open to older women too.... and have you ever thought of "adopting" an older person in the area... see if such a program exists in your area, make friends with an older woman... older people who lived in an area a long time can know many families there, and they are wise enough to read the kind of person you are and could recommend other young females that might be suitable friends... there are many creative ways to meet people :)
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