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writes: You know that movie called My Best Friend's Wedding with Julia Roberts? Well I am kind of in that situation. Except my best friend is single and I am hopelessly in love with him. What do I do? How do I tell him? I think he feels the same way, but I'm not sure. I am going thru a divorce at the moment and he supports me. He makes me happy and I don't want to lose him. How do I tell him? Should I tell him? I would like him to feel the same way about me. But how?Please help :(Mickeylee
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2006): Of course! Do what you think is right first. Going through the divorce, and then continue to pursue your love interest. Hopefully, everything works out for you. May I suggest to take a bit slower since you've just been divorced or going through one. Someone else may have an alternate advice. Mine is just one that may work towards me. 8]
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reader, Mickeylee +, writes (20 January 2006):
Mickeylee is verified as being by the original poster of the question Wow thanx Martini. I didn't expect a response so quick. Nice to know there is someone out there that listens or should i say reads my issues. I have butterflies in my tummy, maybe because i'm nervous. I Want to tell him but don't you think i should wait until i get my final divorce papers. Atleast then i'll know that i have no ties with my ex. I feel it would only be fair to my friend. I wouldn't want to jump the gun so soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2006): Be objective. Tell him first that you honor his friendship, and that you recognize that he's been there for you. Tell him why and how. Let him respond. If his response is neutral meaning positive in the sense that he accepts it, then proceed to tell him that you don't want to ruin your friendship with him, and that it makes you happy to have a friend like him, etc. You can then ask him if he would be interested in pursuing a closer relationship with you, etc, but be sure that you are readily going to accept a rejection as much as an acceptance.
Mind you this will work with me, if a girl confronted me.
YES you should. IF you don't, you'll lose out the chance. There are always a chance he may feel awkward afterwards, but how willing are you to do it? A lifetime of happiness (possibly) or regret?
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