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writes: Hi,I need help. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and I was raped about a month ago by an ex at a party. Ever since, we have had problems and fights every day and I can't stop crying because my boyfriend's family wants nothing to do with me because of what happened and because we just can't seem to find the right way to work it out. What would you reccommend?Sincerely,Sad Girl Reply to this Question
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (14 July 2005):
 First and foremost, you may benefit from receiving help from an external source such as a counsellor and professionals who are experts in dealing with rape. You are trying to cope with not only your own feelings but also that of your boyfriend's and his family. You could certainly do with some support.
You and your boyfriend need to deal with your problems that you have together first. Does his family believe you were raped? This could be the difficulty but it isn't up to you to convince them, you shouldn't have to do that.
If your boyfriend wishes to be with you, then he should be supportive and understanding. Something like this can cause numerous problems in a relationship but if you are both willing, they can be worked through together.
Get some outside help and hopefully your boyfriend will go along with you. You do need that extra support.
I do hope this helps.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (14 July 2005):
What a nasty family!If your boyfriend still wants to see you then it has nothing to do with them and he should tell them this.tell your boyfriend how you are feeling so he has the chance to be more understanding about the situation, hopefully then, things will work out better for you.
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reader, namless_lover +, writes (14 July 2005):
Firstly, if his family won't have anything to do with you because you were taken advantage of remember this, you're dating him, not his family. And about your fighting just tell him at a time when you are calm that you are sorry because you keep fighting but to stick with it, you'll work something out, and if both of you are really in it for the long haul then you will, but you have to work together, sit down and figure out what you usually fight about, and start from there.
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