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writes:I met this guy about two years ago and we would see eachother from time to time. I'm very independent and single. My career takes up most of my time. I do date often but every now and then I like to see him. Months can go by and I will text him and he'll respond with little delay. I found myself liking his company over most men but would continue with my life. I decided to contact him recently and as usual he's very responsive. We have been talking for some time now. He mentioned that he's with a girl. I ofcourse don't pursue him romantically after knowing this. I've been finding myself anxious over it and some what bumbed about it. I'm in a tough position bc I can't stop thinking about him but I don't feel it's fair to let him know bc he involved. I don't see how me telling him that I often feel the need to be around him will give me what I want in the end. I've been on the other side of this scenario myself. I've slowed down conversation. I'm afraid that they'll get serious and he'll forget me. I know this can be seen as a dead end issue yet I'm confused because I wonder why he's responsive to me. Is there any hope or classy way to keep him in my life? How can I tell if he's interested in me in any way?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 November 2011):
 Yes I can completely understand that it hurts, let him know that he has options though so that he knows how you feel and then try as hard as you can to move forward, keep yourself busy and it will get easier in time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know! It's so hard. I should have let him go ages ago but liked the chase. The irony is this is the most we've spoken in a while. I guess I will either say that or let it be. It hurts though! Thank you!
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (24 November 2011):
He is with someone else, so you need to accept that you have lost your chance with him for now. If you are hoping that he might be part of your future well then simply just tell him that you are happy that he has found himself a partner and that you hope that he will be happy, tell him though that if he ever finds himself single to let you know and maybe you could both meet up and then leave it at that. From your post it sounds like it was always you that was contacting him therefore maybe the best thing for you to do is to write that to him and then not contact him again unless he contacts you. Concentrate on your career your life and go out on the dating scene again.
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