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writes:30 years ago, I had the most wonderful girlfriend. She was three years younger than me. We were best friends and complimented each other so well. We really expected to live a normal life, by getting married and having a family. I loved her more than life itself. We had started planning our lifes. Both our families knew our plans, and we thought every thing was perfect. Then came my highschool graduation day. On graduation day, my parents told me that I had to go in the Army. They said there was no money to go to college and if I really want a future, then I must go. They immediatly took me recruiting station and entered me. Nothing I said would convinence them otherwise. I never got to even say goodbye. When I got to the military and tried to call her house, her parents would tell me that she was busy and Politly told me that the army was the best thing for me. Then after a couple of months they finally told me not to call back. I was very confused. I never went back, except to visit, but she was not in our home town. I moved several states away and for 20 years I searched for her, with no luck. I never dated again. Its now 30 years later and I still live several states away from my home town and I decided to look on Reunion.com just for the heck of it. My god, that Morning she had signed up on reunion.com and posted a blog looking for me. I was shocked to say the least. I carefully, responded to her after two hours of crying. The next day she emailed me and we exchanged phone numbers. We have talked 10 hours a day for the last week and have now decided to meet for the first time in 30 years. Its sort of funny, that many times our paths have crossed and we never knew it. We decide during our conversations, to forgive our parents and live the rules we had before. The main one was that we would always be open honest and truthful with each other. She is more beautiful today than ever.So my question is, what should my expectations be for the meeting and how should I approach the meeting? For example: We have planned to meet at a resort in the NC mountains. I was thinking of bring flowers, champain and lots of hugs and kisses. I don;t want to overwelm her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): i actually cried when i read this!it shows you there is such a thing as true love!and you got married! im so happy for you bothx x x
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reader, rcn +, writes (19 November 2007):
 That is simply amazing. Good luck to the both of you. I wish you many happy years together. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis weekend was far beyond anything that I could have ever imagined. I had decided before hand that I would take things slowly, to try to get a feel for how things were going. I really didn't want either one of us to get hurt again. I was way off base.I got to the Grandover resort in NC earily Thursday and made sure I had a few surprises for her, flower, candy and wine. We had both arranged for an escort, just in case. She brought a girlfriend that we both new from highschool and I brought a dear friend that is a pastor and his wife. I will never forget the moment I laid eyes on her as she entered the hotel. It was like a dream come true. I don't know why, but we both saw each other and started crying. We walked up to each other and kissed like there was no tomorrow. With in about ten minutes our escorts stopped everything and introduced themselves. My friend, the pastor, set some rules, since he knew everything about our past. The first and probally most important one was that neither of us were to go to room of the other and we were to have a third party present at all times. We didn't care, so we agreed.After checking in, we met back in the lobby, and for all of thursday evening and all day Friday, we sat there holding each other and simply talking. It was amazing.It was almost as though we were back in highschool again. We talked about our lives, our dreams and our futures. Late Friday, we decided to eat dinner in the hotel at Di Valletta. It was amazing. After dinner we went dancing and we had decided that we never wanted to be apart again. So, I asked her to marry me and she accepted.I think everbody was stunned except us. Little did they know that Saturday we found the magistrate and got a license. I told the hotel our story and they put together the most beautiful wedding.ON saturday, November 17th, 2007 we were married. We have come to Georgia today, to start our honey moon and our lives together.We both want to thank you for your advise and simply listening to our lives. God Bless
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe have now talked for a week, for about sixty hours. I wrote her this poem, because even after all that talking, well It should be self explanitory. Please let me know what you think.This is my first shot at poetry, but its what I’m feeling and thinking. Don’t laugh! Will you bare your soul to me! Will you bare your soul to me?Will you bare your soul to me knowing that I am not perfect.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that all that I am is because of you.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that my anger was true but blind.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that I have failed many times and will fail again.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that we may never see each other to our dying days.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that the secrets of the past may haunt us.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that I have gone to the ends of this earth in search of love and found that you are my one true love.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that now that I have found you, my world will never be the same.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that I will never judge you.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that I will listen in love, but will never cross that line without asking.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that our paths may never cross again.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that the wall of the past is thick and hidden on both sides.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that I will never bare mine to anyone but you.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that there is a cost for the future and that cost is the past and the future.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that I will be your friend and not your lover.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that I will stand by you like a rock in a storm, never wavering or bending.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that I have seen the world that many never wish to see, full of glory and grandeur, but of violence and death.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that I have gone to ends of this earth and I have found that there was only one answer and it is GOD.Will you bare your soul to me by knocking down those walls and knowing that what will be revealed may shock the both of us.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that I have prayed for years, we would meet again.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that I am not who people think I am, but only you will ever know my truth.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that I will reveal my deepest secrets, but before, we must trust in the souls of each other.Will you bare your soul to me knowing that I know you have a past that you do not wish to discuss, but only through that past can there be truth.I will bare my soul to you, revealing all that I am, if you will bare your soul to me.Will you bare your soul to me?
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (9 November 2007):
 This is such a beautiful story!! I, on the other hand, would be careful going in. A lot of things change over 30 years: attitudes, points of view, feelings. I'm not saying you shouldn't bring flowers and champagne, you should. And you should live something you should have years ago. But be careful to be too idealistic. If there is a future for the two of you there needs to be the usual courting process so you can get to know each other again.Heart governs over reason... for a while. Being cautious and giving each other the time to get to know each other will be very important to build a strong base to a future relationship.Best of lucks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe had planning to get married 30 years ago and neither of us have kids or have ever been married. I think its fair to say we both spent the last 30 years in our work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): wow that is amazing. im sure she is excited to see you as you are to see her! your story gives me hope and i hope you update us once you see her. best of luck and WOW!!!
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reader, rcn +, writes (9 November 2007):
Your story absolutely overwhelmed me. Such a wonderful connection the two of you must have, and to have it last all these years. I really wish the both of you the best. I'd say after 30 years, bring all of it, I don't think you'll overwhelm her. It won't be too much, you have 30 years to make up for. Your story reminds me of the song "God bless the broken road." Take care.
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reader, rcn +, writes (9 November 2007):
Your story absolutely overwhelmed me. Such a wonderful connection the two of you must have, and to have it last all these years. I really wish the both of you the best. I'd say after 30 years, bring all of it, I don't think you'll overwhelm her. It won't be too much, you have 30 years to make up for. Your story reminds me of the song "God bless the broken road." Take care.
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