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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:am a lady and married for seven years. my husband has had a tendency of not communicating in marriage when something annoys him. he just changes his mood and do not talk that much. at first i would try to start a conversation, but it was only being cut short, showing no interest at all. this has been going on and i have been telling him that its not the proper way of having a family. He is a caring and loving man. but of late his behaviour is now getting into my nerves. Out of nowhere he changes his mood all of a sudden, try to ask him what was the matter, but i got a shock of my life when he spilled out that he do not recognise ours as a family and both should do whatever she she wishes. I felt bad and asked him if he meant to leave me and he said can't you see the writting on the wall? if you want to leave then do so. since that conversation i have been staying a normal life just as nothing has happened but in my heart keep on debating and thinking over what should i do with my life next. After a few days he comes back to start apologising upon seeing my mood and said he did not mean what he said and to him he thought it was just a casual talk. I do not hate him and wish him well but i just do not have this heart to sustain this marriage anymore. the marriage interest is all gone and dead. even if he touches me i do not feel anything anymore. I have tried to tell myself that with time that maybe things will improve but to no avail. whats the next step forward? Reply to this Question
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reader, guppypig  +, writes (26 March 2009):
You should consult a divorce lawyer. Your husband may be depressed or mentally ill; with the quick temper changes, there's certainly cause for concern. But you do have a right to protect your own interests, and he's as good as shown you the door.
That said, if he exhibits any tendencies to self-harm, call the suicide hotline right away. Obviously, if he's a danger to you, call the police.
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