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writes: I have lost all my confidence in the bedroom. I'm currently seeing a guy and we've had good sex and I'm pretty sure he enjoyed it. The problem is he came to stay with me this weekend and I totally clammed up. I found it almost impossible to relax into it and turn him on. I just seem to have totally forgotten how to touch men. Ive tried to just relax and go with the flow but its not that easy! Help!!I feel inadequate and uncomfortable even though he is the sweetest and most understanding man I've ever been with.Any tips on regaining my confidence and driving him wild?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2005): Hi sweety. You just need to start thinking sexy and you should start to relax. Put it this way, I am not exactly a perfect size 10 (I wish) and for years I was so nervous I couldn`t put the feeling into sex. Then I started to think I may not be a cat walk model, but I am sexy in my own way and I can turn the heat up on a man, no bother.I can massage them, I can kiss them, I can stroke them softly and raise more than just goose bumps of pleasure over their skin. Try touching your own body, stroking your own skin; get in touch with yourself.When you know what you like and how you like things you can do those things to your guy. Also watch how he touches you and where because often men will do things to us women that they enjoy having done to them. Most importantly you really need to learn to relax as much as you can before having intercourse. Go for a nice relaxing long bath. Put thoughts of what is to perhaps happen after out of your mind. This should really help you to be able to go with the flow and ultimately really enjoy the whole experience.I hope I have been of some help to you. Take care and good luck.
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