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writes:Hello forum I have no where else to turn so i came here to get help. I'm 19 years old about to finish college in about 1 1/2 years and I'm single. Here's the twist...I'm going to join the Army after I finish college and go into the infantry and maybe someday Special Forces. The reason why I say its a twist is because I need a girlfriend (or someday future wife) that I can trust when I'm halfway around the world and can be strong when the sh*t hits the fan. The real question is how can I know that she will be faithful and strong. Thanks everyone. One more thing...I have a problem, I can be a little "self-centered" if you can leave me some tips on how to fix that it'll be really helpful..Thanks again. Reply to this Question
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (1 September 2010):
You really have no way of knowing. My boyfriend is in the military, and we've been together about 1 and a half years now, and I don't know how I will take it if he gets sent overseas. I'd like to say that I would be supportive and be able to wait, while I do my own thing back here, and I probably can if he's deployed once. But if he's constantly away? I really don't know. It would take an extraordinary woman to be satisfied in a relationship when her partner is away most of the time (which you likely would be if you were in the Special Forces).
All I can suggest is to try to build a strong relationship with someone where you both care for each other deeply. If she loves you, she will try to be faithful, but even then, such long distances could still wear it down. The self-centeredness would be a problem though. Because any woman you are with will likely feel as though she is sacrificing a lot more than you are, what with being forced to follow you if you are posted to different bases, and having to wait while you are deployed. Just try to see things from the other person's view, and think about all the things they do for you, and think about if the positions were switched, whether you would be able to do that for your partner. Hopefully then you will realize that they do a lot for you, and you can try to reciprocate.
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