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writes:My boyfriend and I dated for like about three years, about five months ago, we got matching tattoos. I got his initals and he got mine. We both got it on the back of our neck.Now we are broken up and I am trying to get over it but everytime I look at the tattoo it reminds me of him.How do I get over him? and is there a possibility I could get it removed? Or should I keep it for memories?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou can get tattoos when your Sixteen where I live with parent permission. I got mine for my birthday which was five months ago.
Why are some calling our relationship a fling, and a mistake? We were together since we were thirteen years old.
When your thirteen relationships last a month, if that.
But thank you for all your advice. I've decided to get a flower overtop of it. It will cover up quite well as the initals are not that big.
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reader, Karlin24  +, writes (1 July 2009):
 Your next boyfriend is not going to want to see your ex's initals everytime you do it doggy style. He was a part of your life, and you have your memories, you don't need his "brand" on you too. If you like tattoos, get a nice butterfly or Chinese symbol, etc to go over it. You'll still know it's under there, but that would be for you alone to know.
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reader, lovnlife +, writes (1 July 2009):
how do you manage to look at it on the back of your neck lol but i would cover it up no sense in bringing up the pass you have to let go to move on o yea get something nice over it!!!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 July 2009):
 Only date guys who have the same initials as your ex. Problem solved, unless of course his name was Quentin Xavier.
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reader, betty_black  +, writes (1 July 2009):
 Or if like one person said you still talk to him and are friends with him then leave it as a memory of what was! Lets face it, you dont have to look at the nape of your neck every day so it shouldnt effect you that much! And if new boyfriends ask whose initials they are be straight up about it, my ex had his exes first enitial in a big heart across his chest, it didnt bother me cos all it is is a reminder of what once was!
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reader, betty_black +, writes (1 July 2009):
You can get it lazered off but it leaves a scar of where it was, so its the same as whats there now just without the ink, but make up can cover that up. Or you can choose to get it covered over, pick a good tattooist though, ive seen some crap cover ups! And i hope you've learned from your mistake to NEVER get partners names tattooed!
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reader, xXAlexxX +, writes (1 July 2009):
It depends - if you split up acrimoniously and you're still good friends, then if it's not too painful, you could keep the tattoo to remind you of the good times you had together.
(Although bear in mind that new boyfriends might not be too happy with it!)
If you don't want to keep it, then you could consider a coverup. Removal is very expensive, and often leaves scars, so a coverup might be a better option.
Ask around - some artists suck at doing cover-ups, and others do them very well - it can be hard to incorporate a new design over an old one,so go to someone who knows what they're doing!
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reader, DKW +, writes (1 July 2009):
Memories of what? A brief fling and a mistake? Get it lasered off, a lot of tattoo studios now have their own laser removal rigs, ask around, or get it done at a clinic.
Failing that, have a tattoo artist do a cover up job on it!
It's part of tattoo folklore, you get a lover's name tattooed on you and you've just put the kiss of death on that relationship!
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reader, shnookims  +, writes (1 July 2009):
 You can get it removed, however it is expensive and I've heard, painful. But I suggest that if you can that you do. You can't keep it for memories... How would you explain it to you new boyfriends? I'm not sure that they would be too happy with your exes initials pasted on your body.
As for getting over him... time will make it easier. If that really is your age you still got your whole life ahead of you.
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reader, MansonGroupie +, writes (1 July 2009):
 I have my boyfriends name tattooed on my arm (maybe that makes me silly too?).
I agree with Samii though, you'd be better off getting it covered. If it's on your neck, it will be quite small and easily covered if you have a design in mind.
You could perhaps get something that signifies a new a beginning, something personal to just you.
Having his initials as a permanant reminder may make it more difficult for you to move on.
Be happy Hun :)
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reader, laura585 +, writes (1 July 2009):
Sorry I misread the question! You guys were together 3 years, not 5- my mistake.
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reader, laura585 +, writes (1 July 2009):
I have a tattoo on the back of my neck and I never have the problem of seeing it all the time. Maybe you should stop doing the two-mirror thing because thats the only way I can see mine. Your age is 13-15 so being together for 5 years yall started a relationship anywhere between 8-10? Is this a real question?! Anyway they have this cream now, I cant think of the name of it now but I'm sure you can google it, you apply it everyday and after a few months the tattoo starts to fade, until eventually no more tattoo! Sorry I cant remember the name of it! Another thing: in Canada its legal to get tattoos at your age?
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