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writes:Lads, if a girl you had a short term relationship with, had your baby, but you were with someone else, would you be a man and step up to the plate and actually want to know your child? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): Hey, sorry to hear about him not wanting to be involved, although it is his loss it must also be very hard on you as so much in your life has suddenly changed so quickly.
If the situation stays this way, and when the baby gets older, you will have to make sure you explain that their dad didn't want to get involved because of their own issues and immaturity and it had nothing to do with your baby.
Children deep down blame themselves and think there is something wrong with them, if a parent leaves them. If this is not addressed they can grow up and choose the wrong paths in life.
Develop plenty of self-confidence for your baby so that it will not feel unwanted or unloved. Always remember the problem is with the dad, the baby is perfect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeh, well the situation is, we was together for a short time, id known him longer, but i found out he was in a relationship with someone else, so i called the whole thing off, i knew nothing before, and i didnt want to be his mistress after thinking it was just me and him. a few weeks later i was pregnant and even though he pays child support, he wont see his baby. my childs so gorgous, and looks just like him, he dont know what hes missing out on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): i'm a girl but if i had a baby by some1 else other than my bf i wud want them to see it because i don't think it is right that a baby doesn't get to see its biological father. if it doesn't have a father it will grow up wondering where it come from!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): you have to be part of that childs life,provide for that child as he is growing up,you are responsible for him being here,in years to come he will respect you for being there for him not reject and hate you as a lot of children have done this to fathers who want to be a part of them only as teenagers or young adults,not when they were younger
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008):
Definitely, the way I see it is that if the father doesn't choose to be a parent when the baby needs him the most then he doesn't ever deserve to be a father to the child.
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reader, nolanative89  +, writes (21 November 2008):
It depends on your current situation. Of course you want to be with your child but the question is do you want to be with your child's mother? Many people think that they have to stay with the person they have kids with. This can lead to a really strained relationship if your heart is not there.
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reader, rcn +, writes (21 November 2008):
 Of course. It's not about the child's mom, it's about this child. I love my children and couldn't imagine living without having them around.
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