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writes:I've recently started having sex with my boyfriend, but we don't really talk about it. I've tried talking about it with him but he's not giving me any information so I don't really know if he's enjoying it, if maybe he doesn't want to, I don't know what to do or say... please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): Yeah. Tell him that you're not being insensitive, that you care about him just as much if he's bad in bed or if he thinks you are! As long as you recognise how the sex can be better, then the only way is up! (No innuendo intended...!)
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reader, loveaddict01 +, writes (12 November 2008):
loveaddict01 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhere's some info I probably should have added...we're both each other's first...im even his first gf...and thanks for the advice, I guess I'm just gonna have to ask him next time we're about to do anything
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): He's probably just too embarrassed to talk about it. However communication is key to a good sex life. Not to worry you, but maybe he won't talk about it because he doesn't enjoy it as much as he wants you to think he does, he doesn't want to upset you so he just doesn't talk about it. But unless he tells you what you're doing wrong then you can't rectify it. It also might be the other way around - he won't talk about it because he thinks he's rubbish in bed and is scared you'll criticise him. But again unless he talks about it then the problem can't be solved. Explain to him that you need to talk to make things better and he might come around.
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