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writes: I have been seeing a guy in a long distance relationship for approximately 2 months now. However, in the last few weeks I have realised that my feelings for him are for nothing more than a friend, and I need to tell him this. He is a decent and kind, intelligent person and I want to deal with the break-up respectfully. He thinks that there is nothing wrong so this will come as a shock to him. I am seeing him this weekend, it is a 3 hour drive to his house, and we have plans to go to his friend's birthday on the Saturday night.I don't know whether the best thing is to tell him as soon as I arrive on Saturday then leave, or to go out on the Saturday and tell him before I leave on the Sunday. What do others think? What is the best way to deal with this situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2006): I agree with David! I have recently got togther with the most wonderful guy and we were friends for a year before we got togther and it is so nice that we had friendship before the relationship because we got to know each other before anything happened and we are both mad about each other! Work on the friendship side first then if i turns into a relationship then you know that you will be happy
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (18 October 2006):
 I think you should tell him how you feel before you visit him. Just tell him that you really value his friendhip and be as honest as you can with him. I know first hand what this is like, so even if the truth hurts, it is better then the deception and pretence.
My fiancee used to tell me she loved me, I eventually found this to be untrue. She is completely in love with me now though, so there may still be a future for you. Try to build a solid friendship, then who knows what will happen.
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