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writes:I have known this guy for about 2 and a half years and just resently (about a few months ago) he has started flirting with me and has resently told me exactly how he feels...the only problem is that he lives quite far away now.would it work between us?
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (28 July 2008):
 At your age, distance is a real problem. You're not free to travel on your own yet, so getting together with this guy is going to be quite difficult. And even in this day of video phone calls and IM, distance is still something that causes trouble. Frankly, if you can't be together, pretty soon one or the other (or both) of you are likely to start seeing advantages to being with someone a whole lot closer to home. And that spells trouble to your long distance love.
That's not to say it absolutely CAN'T work. Fifty years ago I started dating a girl who spent virtually all of her time either away at boarding school or traveling with her family. We dated (on those occasions when she was home) for four years before we drifted apart (when we left for different colleges). Both of us dated other people during that time, too, but what we had together was special. And this was in the days before computers, when even long distance phone calls were prohibitively expensive, and all we could do was write actual physical letters to one another and mail them back and forth. And her parents and the boarding school authorities even read all her letters. So yes, it CAN work, after a fashion, with even just a very little actual contact (if you can arrange even that ... I assume you've actually met this boy somewhere). But I won't kid you. It's really tough.
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reader, doodles362 +, writes (28 July 2008):
 Well funnily enough this is happening to me at this moment in time lol and i like in scotland and The guy lives in england, it's ok if you both make sure you can see each other on a regualr enough basis then it could work out. You know what they say, 'Distance makes the Heart Grow fonder'
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