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writes: I have been with my boyfriend for six years now. We lived together for five of those years my mother got sick so i had to move home to take care of her. he didn't move with me he found his own place. we still were together. I have a 3 year old son for him. Lately i have been hearing that he has be seeing some other girl, I asked him about it but he denied it, but i have proof that they have been talking. Her number was in his phone lots of times under recieved calls. Now that i know about it he does not come around any more only to see his son. He wouldn't talk to me or try to prove to me that this is not true.He acts like he dosen't care about our relationship any more. I asked what have i did wrong. what should i do move on with my life or try to mend our relationship for our son. I care about him but now i think he is tired of being with us.
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reader, schlottjl  +, writes (2 May 2006):
 The question is what has HE done wrong (you just asked if rumors are true).
I think you should move on since he seems to already moved on. There is no sense in staying put in a spot where you are alone and where he humiliates you and shows you no respect.
Be decent and with him and do not bring up anything outside of arrangements regarding your child. Eventually, you both might be able to be friendly again but not anytime soon. Unfortunatley you will have to see him often (so long as he is interested in the child he has with you, but that could change since he clearly has some growing up to do.)
You must work on you taking care of you. He does not hold the sceptor that deems you good enough or even as good as. Who cares what a lying cheat thinks. Do not allow him or his choices to have any value. He will either grow up and feel bad for his immaturity and loss, or he will do this to the next girl and the next. He will eventually end up very poor for all the child support and emotionally dead as he is seeking in all the wrong areas to fill his void.
I am so sorry he has proven unworthy of your time. With so much hopes and history you must be having a difficult time. Keep connected with friends and if you don't have many good ones take up a hobby and make new ones. You will survive in time and the more you tend to your emotional healing, the better mate material you become.
Good luck.
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