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anonymous
writes:Well, I have done everything I can to pursue a girl on facebook - I have met her once in person although I have trying to get her contact information without any success so far. This is all the stuff that I have done though facebook1. Told her that I spent "hours and hours looking for her on facebook" and also sent her a invite - Her Response - She Accepted2. Also told her that I tried to steal her contact information off library records after she accepted the invite - Her Response - No Reply but still on friend's list3. Got frustrated and removed her from facebook and actually sent her a message that politely said get lost, I am not interested in you anymore - and added her back again telling her that I want to be friend's again and I am sorry - Her Response - She Accepted without saying anything4. In between all of this - I have told her that I like her several times and that I want to talk to her on the phone - Her Response - Twice, she told me that she will call me but she hasn't called.5. I have sent her so many messages about stuff like movies, going out somewhere etc etc...- Her Response - Responds every now and then saying she will watch the movie or that she can't come somewhere because she is busy with work.What is up with this girl? Is she just playing hard to get or is she psychopathic? I have been trying to talk to her for the past three months.Please Help. I know I should probably move on but there is something about this girl that won't let me do it.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 Hey Op,
It's understandable that you didn't use psychopath in the right context. And you understand that you were being real creepy. We're just trying to tell you next time be less persistent is all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): Ok guys, I am the person who asked the question here. I understand that I have been real creepy. I didn't mean any offense by calling her a psychopath - just said it out of frustration that I wasn't able to talk to her.
I understand that this is not the right approach to meet a girl. I am sorry about my behavior and question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): She's probably too nice to tell you this, but I will;
You are a creepy guy.
And you have the got some nerve to call her a psychopath. Really?
Take a hint. She's not interested in you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): LooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooolThats so Indian! This boy did that to me - he was from India. I am from England, however Hindu. You all need to change your mentality! I met him once in India and he will not stop stalking to me. Also Indian girls tend to be all like 'omg your talking to a boy what if my parents find out.' So yea I'd reduce the stalking behaviour and move on mate.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 January 2011):
* Doesn't mean you're friends in all actuality*
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 January 2011):
1. Wrong move in telling her you spent hours looking for her on Facebook, but at least she accepted your friend request.
2. Isn't stealing information from private library records a crime? Of course she isn't going to respond to that message, you're getting borderline virtual stalker like on her.
3. You deleted her off of your Facebook telling her to get lost as if she's the one bothering you??
4. I get where you would be a little upset by this. However, actions speak louder than words. If she said she would call and doesn't then what does that tell you?
5. Again, she's giving you an answer so you will possibly take the hint and leave her alone.
This girl isn't a psychopath or is she playing hard to get. She's simply not interested in getting to know you or have any type of relationship with you, not even a friendship. Just because you're friends on Facebook doesn't mean your friends you're friends in all actuality. Think about it, 3 months and she hasn't given you the time of day.
MOVE ON.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): Look, she's not interested, take the hint!
I am fed up of going on my Facebook account and seeing creepy guys trying to add me as a friend because they like my picture.
It's not a dating site. Leave her alone.
When girls get random friend requests from strange men, they think it's creepy, ok?
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reader, welsh +, writes (30 January 2011):
You are the one who's been psychopathic. You are almost stalking her. Leave her alone.
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reader, Cherrie_StPierre  +, writes (30 January 2011):
 I'm sorry to sound mean but you are the one that is coming off psychopathic. Your almost stalking her through Facebook. This girl doesn't seem very interested and she is just being nice by not answering you. If you cant say something nice, don't say it at all? Seriously. I would stop trying. I really don't think you are going to get anywhere with her. xoxoxox
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