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writes:Ok so I need some help. I really like this woman. Shes 24, and I just recently turned 19. I met her when we worked together, that was 3 years ago. I've found different jobs, but we still get together every two weeks for lunch. Heck she and I went to a free concert in the park, and I still didn't do anything.I am just too afraid to loose her as one of my dear friends but there is that part of me that would long for more. I don't know how to approach her to tell her how I feel. I know I should but everytime I have the opportunity I shy away, always wondering what would happen if she didn't feel the same way, or if she would not hang out with me so much due to the situation.I don't know what to do. Do I tell her or sit in the darkness of my heart and tell myself "it's better this way, no one gets hurt."I have been told by one of her good friends that she wouldn't mind kissing me, its just the age thing that is a little off-putting.So should I still tell her. I've been contemplating this question for 3 years and I still need more help.
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reader, sxyredhdnc +, writes (18 July 2006):
 nothing ventured nothing gained i say so go for it tell her what's on your mind.if you spend enough time together and get along so well the age thing won't matter after awhile.my guy is 11 yrs younger ,to me it's just a number.she may surprise you with her response.i think however that if she doesn't want a relationship that it won't effect the friendship since you have been friends for so long.if you are good friends nothing will tear it apart anyway.go for it and good luck
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reader, helpful girl  +, writes (14 July 2006):
 i think you should yes age is nothing but a number im in a ralationship were there is a 21year difference between our age but we still get on fine. put it this way if you dont tell her how do you know what she feels for all you know she may feel the exact same but like you doesnt want to admit it. defanately tell her you dont know what chance you got till you do and since youve been friends for a long time i dont think it will affect your friendship. but the way you should tell her is on your own and tell her youve liked her 3years and you like her alot tell her exactely how you feel.
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