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writes:I've been getting called "ugly" ever since sophmore year. I'm now a senior and I'm scared to go to school. I used to always stick up for myself, but now not so much. To be honest I don't know what to do. I sometimes just want to die just so I don't have to go through the next day. I've told staff at school about my problem junior year, and they did nothing. I want to be home-schooled but my mom told me no, thats letting them win. Even my close friends say I'm ugly. My dad and brother has said it too...Any tips or suggestions? I don't dare to post a picture of what I look like, considering the fact that I'm too scared of being called ugly by anyone else....The funny thing is when I was in elementary school and middle school everyone thought I was beautiful...what's happening to me?? Reply to this Question
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reader, princessa  +, writes (5 September 2008):
babe people talk things when there jealouse
and i know that for a fact,
im 18 years old and i was never comfortable with my self till i was about 17 years old..
i was teased in school called ugly, fat and whatever
i lost weight proved them all wrong and know im a model
and everygirl that used 2 talk about me saying i was ugly well they cant talk cause there not even that prty iether and now they call me other things like that im a slut but thing is im still a virgin so my point is people are gna keep on talking cause there jelouse and you have to realize that the person u are on the outsode dosnt make u the person u are on the inside u have to keep smiling and keep your head up high and stay positive because im sure ur beautiful and you dont have to worry about what people say
just have confidence look in the mirror and say 2 yourself that i am beautiful no matter what anyone says and dont let words get you down
good luck
mwa x0xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): Everebody that call you so are too stupid! And friends that call "ugly", they are not true friends. As well you know friend inneed is a friend indeed. You better find some real friends and with real friends around you, you will be many times happier.Wish u all good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): I was called fat at school too.
It hurt.
Then when I got into the real post school world, I realised everyone had something wrong with them.
And then realised that with personality you can get much further.
People like me because i make them feel good. I compliment hem before they can say anything to me. I listen, rather than talk. And people like that.
School is an artificial environment. Later comes real life. Iwish i had known that then. Things wouldve affected me less.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for answering !dre!89. In the long run I know this will make me stronger a person. With the whole suicide thing, I know it hurts everyone. No matter if you think it will or not. I had a friend commit suicide, it was one of the worst days of my life. I promise I wont do it, but I do think about it a lot[ I can't lie ]. Thank you again! I hope you also have an AMAZING day tomorrow. 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to thank both of you for answering my question. I'll follow both of your tips, and I'll hope for the best. Just getting this off my chest, even though you are strangers, it just feels good that someone finally listened to me and is willing to help. Tomorrow when I go to school I'll just keep telling myself positive things. I mean it's my last year of high school, and it should be the best year. Again, thank you both so much. I forgot how nice stranger can be. I hope you both have an AMAZING day tomorrow =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): Seniro ear is one scary one.
this is called verbal bullying. yes, there is such thing.
And it is the most hurtful becaue it causes and emotioal scar that many carry for years.
dont let that happen to you! so people call you ugly, i bet many call you beautiful. I but when you go to a bar, or resturant at least one head turn to check you out.
Tell talk to your mum about this, she may talk to you dad and brothe rto stop calling you ugly.
as for what you can do, dress up pretty to go to school, buy new clothes, perhaps a new haircut? paint you nails. like, spend this WHOLE wekend not seeing anyone else. just pampering yourlself. buy shoes, tees, dresses. Dresses and skirts always look cute. like a have this freind, she is not pretty, yet she is adorable and cute and that makes hr beautful. on the other hand thre is this GORGEOUS grl, tanned, blue eyes, ballarina. and you woudl guess everyone thinks she is beautiful right? well. she is one of the hottest, yet no guy wants anythig with her because she is so dull and tasteless. like, she waers simple clothes, nothing about her stands out apart from her beauty. so you have many kind of beauties you know (as cliche as it sounds). physical beauty, thank god, is not the MAIN thing in life. cause imagine walking around a world full of models? plus, the most important jobs.. it is proven that there is discrimination in workplace to extremly beuiful people.. the comptetion would be HELL! but anyways.
point is, you shouldnt feel ugly. there is this therapy I learnt that is every morning look at your self in the mirror and find something you like, then close your eyes, open them again and say to your self "I am beautiful. I have wonderful eyes!" and give your BIGGEST smile. I know it sounds stupid, but it works for many teenagers.
or music therapy, where you JUST listen songs related to love. makes your day brighter. dont listen to people who call yu ugly. if anything they re jealous of something that you have and they dont.
thers this other one where you write all over your body love messages "I love myself" and thn take a relaxing bath.
learn how to appreciate yor body the way it is is the key to a happy life. Another example, i know this girl, and she is not the thinnest of the lot, yet she feels pretty. why? because hse has learnt that she cant do anything and is making the bet out of her.
concearning your friend,you should tell her it hurt and that it is not fair since you dont call hr fat r ugle or anything.
hope it helped somehow!
good luck princess.
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reader, !dre!89  +, writes (28 August 2008):
No one is ugly just different, the sort of people that call names are the same people that inside are truly ugly and that will be around them far longer than they live,i was personally overweight,braces big forehead and im still the same minus the braces and went through the same crap but am stronger for it. and you know that personality outshines everyone so if your happy so is everyone but the truly ugly ones. peace and suicide destroys families, think outsidexxooxx
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