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writes:I have a tendency to always be there for people whether it was my family and friends I would go out of my way for them that was my way of showing I care. As expected though I did not realise until after that what you would do for others, others may not do the same for you. I have sisters within our household that does not feel like a family they are supportive at all I mean I have so much going on in my life right now personal medical issues that could affect my life and education work stress I can not find a job and yet all my family work.I am lately depressed a lot being at home for ages I am not lazy I do go out there trying to not give up but I do not know how to bring myself back up from all the hurt and pain I have endure in the past and now from friends and family who I would do anything for and now when I am in a dark place there is no'one there for me. I feel so alone, we never had communication in the house but even so now I just feel left out I have confronted them about it nobody is bothered. They use to love me a lot and I use to be the centre of the conversations and I had a good relationship with my sisters and I definitely haven't done anything bad to them except be there for them emotionally and financially cause that's what sisters are for right? But I never receive the same supportive when I need it the most right now.I have started to go library occupy my time try to get a hobby I absolutely love reading because it stimulates my mind.I want to know how can I think positive why am I finding it so hard to accept that I am alone and that people use me that is part of life. How can I be stronger instead of going in depression crying other night alone in self-pity. I need help! I have spoke to counsellor and professional would love to any books or any self books that you can perhaps recommend to help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2013): Thankyou so much for your feed back, i am the OP an i just feel so alone i had gone to counselling but it never helped much i could do with a cuddle or someone who is there to listen right now most friends even though we are close they just arent there for me. Its really hard when you do not have anyone you can talk too sometimes without them cutting u off and going on about themselves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2013): Thankyou so much for your feed back, i am the OP an i just feel so alone i had gone to counselling but it never helped much i could do with a cuddle or someone who is there to listen right now most friends even though we are close they just arent there for me. Its really hard when you do not have anyone you can talk too sometimes without them cutting u off and going on about themselves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2013): Family, love them, hate them.. They will always be there.. I can relate as I too gave a lot to my sisters and brothers with very little in return.. And yet, even though I do not see them (bar one) I still wish them well.. You need to take a firm grip of yours (I'm a mental health nurse) and stimulating your mind is good.. Going to the library is good. Why not think of doing an open university course (they have short courses) you can use the library for research and quiet time while developing your mind into an area that You enjoy .. It will also help you with your job search .Also if you haven't many friends .. Now's the time to branch out .. Join some online pen friend clubs . Join a book club etc .. Depression can also make us feel that people don't care when the do.. I am married have three kids, have 4 close friends and good job . Very happy.. I miss my sister / brothers but life goes on .. And as one aunt said on here ' why have toxic people in your life ' .Life is for the living .. So live your life.. Make an appointment with your GP just cover your bases you may need a SSRI to help you feel better or cognitive therapy .. And talking to a counsellor is good . Be happy sweetie.. And I wish I could give you a cuddle .. X
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