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writes:i wrote a few weeks ago about a man I had met at the end of july and had started to date. Well during this time his mum was very ill and she died in september. During this time we had carried on seeing him, but about a month ago he went very quiet on me. Evetually I had asked if he was still interested and understood if he was not seeing as he was going though a major grieving prosess. he explained that he was definately still interested and that he would tell me if he was not. after that phone call he called me a couple of times but never arranged to meet up with me. I thought he actions were showing that for what ever reason at the moment he was choosing not to see me. I was a litlle frustrated as I had giving him the opportunity to tell me if he wasnt. But also I was aware that he is dealing with the loss of his mum and therefore i probably am not his priority. Well it was his birthday a couple of weeks ago and I sent him a card and in it jokingly I wrote, I will take you out for a mcdonalds sometime. He thanked me for the card. then a few days later I texted saying did you have a good weekend and did you do anything nice for your birthday. He responded by saying he had been out and had a good time, and at the end of the text he said dont forget you owe me a mcdonalds. So I took this as a hint to meet up so I texted back and said Well let me know when your avaialble and i will take you out. Well that was a week ago and I have not heard from him since !!! I have not contacted him. I guess some poeple lmay think im stupid as I guess his behaviour is telling me he does not want to know. But its really hard as we were getting on well, and its really confusing that he should make such a comment if he had no intention of wanting to see me. Should i just leave it now ? and see if he comes to me ? or should I contact him and clear up the confusion ? Or really should I just accept he does not want to know as if he did he would have contacted me at least over the last week. And if the comment was a hint to get together then really he would have come back to me with a time when he was avaialble to meet. Its just hard as i really like him and its hard not having closure. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou guys for your answers it gave me someinsight as to where he may be at. I will contact in a few days and let him know Im here for him, and allow him time to come to me when he is ready x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): Well, it's only been a week! He's probably been busy or maybe he thought you were joking. Instead of waiting for him to call you to set a date why not call him and tell him you'll pick him up on Wednesday at 7pm (or whenever) for his dream date at Maccy D's?
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