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*r. Dutch
writes:my fiance and i live with her bestfriend ( a gay man) and this is not my choosing. Well we are having a baby and it turns out she had discussed with him that he should have legal rights of our child if anything happens to us. Not my choice, she already told him its what she wants. Outraged that she spoke with him and made our choice already!Then i explained how i was excited to enjoy the special moment of the birth of our child. She said it will be special for the three of us. I asked her what she meant and she said me, her and the gay man friend. I have told her many times i feel the birth is special as a mom,dad, and baby moment. She looked at me crying and in disbelief and said i couldn't take that special moment away from him (the gay man) he is like a roomate to me, a brother to her. I thought? its not his moment is it? its mine and my fiance and baby moment. I am open to discussion yet she already said to him she wanted him there.What i cannot forgive is she looked me in the eye, didn't acknowledge my wishes and went straight for how i was hurting her by wanting to exclude her gayman! i wasnt excluding when it wasnt his moment to exclude.On so many levels the longer i am with her i am seeing that she values him over me and i feel i am only needed as the provider for her to live with her gay hubby. I am devastated!
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reader, Mr. Dutch +, writes (10 August 2009):
Mr. Dutch is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks anonymous fella!
Always appreciate useless comments.
Thought this forum was for people to air their relationship concerns or problems and gain advice on how to deal with these issues from helpful people with similiar experiences or experience in general.
Thanks for wasting my time buddy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009): Isn't this the same fiance who wouldn't swallow and who would sleep on the couch??? In your earlier 2 posts (just two days ago) how come you never mentioned about her being pregnant or having a gay friend??? Are you for real, man??
You better find some other pastime rather than wasting your as well as our time here!
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