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writes: I recently lost my spouse. The doctor that treated him seemed to flirt, or be overfriendly. I have seen him since my spouse passed away. He made flirting commments, telling me to call him in a month if I still feel as I do now, and we will talk. He also commmented on how good I looked. (I don't want to grieve any more. It won't bring my hubby back and my spouse always told me not to, to get on with my life when he goes). So my question is, this doctor, I sent him a gift (general gift that could have been thanks etc) with my phone number in it. He hasn't called but yet he told me to call him. Humm don't have a phone number. So am I just clinging because of the loss I have or imagining something that isnt there? I can talk to this person, he makes me laugh, and I get enjoyment out of seeing him laugh. He seems like he doesn't laugh much. What should I do? I now feel like greiving all over again, for my hubby and the other guy, that I thought was for real and now seems like it isn't. help
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reader, becky05 +, writes (3 August 2005):
Perhaps the doctor was just being friendly and, in your grief, you have mistaken it for something else.
If the doctor pursues a relationship with you then he would be breaking the rules as doctors are not allowed to have personal dealings with their patients.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2005): I am so sorry for your painful loss of your brloved spouse. Healing is a matter of offering space, comfort, and compassion and it seems to me, like this doctor was being caring and supporting you...but not in the way of considering you as a love partner. He was just acting as a good friend to you..by relaizing you had suffered a profound loss in your life. By simply being willing to listen to you, he is wanting to help you let go of your angst and cope with the grief. What a wonderful friend he is..we all need to count our blessings when people like this stand beside us, through our darkest days. Don't read anything other than friendship on his part in his attentions to you. take care and be strong.
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