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writes:I have just found that I suffer from a phobia known as Philophobia which is the fear of falling in love. Now I do not have all the side symptoms such as nausea, sweating and such but the problem here is I like having this phobia. I see all the time people cheating on people their suppose to "love" and it makes me glad that I have something to prevent me from suffering such heartache. I like being single and a virgin. Everyday I wake up and I don't have to worry about kids, stds and the stress relationships bring. But in no way see this as me being selfish because iam a very kind and giving person. My problem lies within how I am dealing with this phobia. Is it normal to embrace a phobia and be as happy as iam or will one day everything come crashing down on me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2011): Loneliness.THAT'S why people continuously get themselves into strife, making the same mistakes our ancestors were making thousands of years ago.You say you are happy now. But when you have your career, you have all your goals achieved, you have your mansion, and your money... who are you going to share it with?You can say family, and yes giving to your brothers and sisters and parents is great, but it's not the same as having someone to spend your days with, to caress and have caress you.You can't make love to a family member (not if you want to stay out of jail at any rate) from dusk until dawn. And hookers are paid to be what they are, they aren't there because they care about you or the things you've done or who you are.That is why people brave all the pain you focus on in their lives searching for the same thing... because when we find it, it is the best feeling in the world.Besides, have you seen how many rich and famous people are miserable? Versus how many average and poor people are still able to feel happiness, even with the hardships they have to endure?It might be you have a phobia and that's fine, people have irrational fears all the time. But this is not like some fear of spiders or snakes or heights or some other thing that is easily avoided.No, this is something that cannot be avoided. You can't avoid people, well you can but then you become a hermit. You can't avoid human interaction and you can't avoid falling in love, it will happen eventually.This IS a phobia that HAS TO be dealt with.Flynn 24
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (26 August 2011):
 Why would it be selfish? The only ones who will be upset are all the girls who'll fall for you during the course of your life. But they'll move on.
If it makes you happy, there's no worries. Normal or not, who cares.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (26 August 2011):
 If you are happy then you are there is nothing to change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI like spending my time on my career and its a fun and rewarding career that doesn't require me to sit in a cubicle or have deadlines. In the past when ever I caught the attention of the opposite sex I would run away simply because I like being a free man without limitations. I don't like having to "check-in" or have to ask to do something. Ive realized over the years that women will never meet my expectations which are ; They must be a virgin, beautiful, and educated. YES I do realize that this is unrealistic so why even try to look for something that's not there. From a personnel stand point I find it distinguish to think I could possibly give myself to a person who has had like 10 partners. Its so much easier not trying and just live.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (26 August 2011):
You are who you are. I don't think anything will be crashing down on you. If you are happy why try to fix anything if it ain't broke?
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