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Is wife dropping hints that she wants a threesome?

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Question - (29 September 2011) 4 Answers - (Newest, 21 March 2012)
A male United States age 41-50, *opingCop writes:

My wife has REALLY enjoyed when I use a dildo on her while giving her oral, about a month ago, I was doing that, and then just using the dildo on her. She said, you like watching that don't you? Are you imagining another guy doing me? I said yes! And she said that that is HOT! I said if she wanted that, I would like it, that I LOVE watching her enjoying herself. She thought about it, didn't say no, but only said that she thinks I would be jealous and couldn't handle it. I said I would LOVE it, and would only be jealous if she became romantically involved with him. I told her that I love her more than anything and I want her to be happy and enjoy everything as much as possible. She said then that she knows a few guys that would probably JUMP at the chance. The conversation kind of ended there. She has since dropped little things like the time she called my cell when I was at work and said: "I thinj the lawn care guy just saw me naked! I was getting out of the shower and walked in the bedroom and didn't realize the blinds were open. I almost invited him in to fulfill your fantasy!" I rushed home and we had INCREDIBLE sex! Last night she commented about someone at work complimenting her on her appearance. But left it at that. I am trying to figure out if she is REALLY interested in a 3some. I want to come out and ask her, it just seems that I have to wait till the subject comes up again. I don't want her to all of a sudden freak out that she doesn't satisfy me, or that I want her to find someoone else or whatever. I even bought 2 videos, one is a porn/instructional video on 3somes, the other is just 3somes of all types. I am honestly hoping that she finds them, watches them, gets turned on and talks to me about it wanting to get a mmf going... any thoughts or help from anyone is appreciated! T~

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A male reader, JerryS United Kingdom +, writes (21 March 2012):

I think she is but if you go down this road you need to setup some ground rules and and really good communication going on.

What you are suggesting is called Hotwifing.

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A female reader, YouWish United States + , writes (30 September 2011):

YouWish agony auntFantasies are fun! Role playing with the dildo is fun too!

But boy are you risking a lot if you bring another guy into the relationship, even for a threesome. Women are very susceptible to developing feelings for the guys they're sleeping with, threesome or no.

I agree that outside the bedroom is a good time to have a talk about it. I won't tell you not to do it, but if you do, you need to set a hell of a lot of extremely thorough ground rules.

I would advise against making it a reality, but it's been done before. I have seen ads on Craigslist involving couples looking to make a threesome or husbands who want to watch their wives get it on with another man.

It's your call. if you and your wife agree on rules, it's in bounds, but it's still a major risk.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2011):

****Don't turn this fantasy into reality**

I am speaking from experience, and nothing good usually comes out of these threesomes. A good friend of mine decided that it would be a turn on if he watched while I had sex with his girlfriend, which ended happening one night. The chemistry between his girlfriend and I was out of this world, and that's one of the potential complications of having a threesome. She began calling me a lot with salacious talk and what not, often hinting that we should have more threesomes. We ended up having a lot more threesomes, not to mention hot sex behind her boyfriend's back....many times! I'm giving you a fair warning....don't open up Pandora's box because you will regret it later on.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2011):

You know, if having these little "fantasy" moments is good for you guys, then I see no harm in it being imaginary. But I think it is a whole different ball game once you actually get another person in the room with you and see the reality of it all.

I have never heard of the threesome ending up with postive results for a relationship. I would be extremely cautious.

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