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anonymous
writes:I had a long term relationship end about 4 years ago, it ended bad for me as she messed me about and I was a sap ha.. but I've had one brief relationship since and felt bad because I didn't like her as much as she did me. If I'm interested in a girl now I either loose interest or motivation for them easily.. I am also very picky for some reason.. when will this stop? Also silly things remind me off my ex, happy young couples being happy reminds me, engagement parties, also I wind myself up sometimes I randomly think I bet she is been hammered now by a 6ft beast and she is loving it, or having a different bloke every week.. which can really hurt me.. while I'm here 26 mulling over relationships. When will I be happy again? Rather than just accepting it. Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your help ladies, I will hopefully find my way soon, I don't know what it is I have only met a few ladies I feel I'm interested in then I lose interest.. before I even ask them out.. I don't know I feel As if I'm forcing myself to go for them when before in was natural.. and. As for my ex she has been chasing me down on facebook and everything.. I could probably try with her again but I wouldn't feel about her the way I did before .. kind of pants really lol thanks again
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (1 May 2013):
 Maybe a man would give better advice about your situation, but here's my advice.
Once bitten twice shy. Your ex hurt you deeply, so you are more cautious now about who you want to give your heart to. This is normal and OK. Go with the flow of how you feel and don't try to force anything with anyone.
You feel nostaligic about the good times you had with your ex, because you wish to connect with someone else at that level. You miss the connection you had with your ex.
Life is full of wonderful surprises. All is not lost where new love is concerned. Take this time to heal, reflect, live, travel, improve yourself. Open yourself up to new opportunities. You will love again. I know this from personal experience.
On a side note, you could also give in to your urges and reconnect with your ex, but I have a feeling it will only lead to more hurt for you, so think carefully about it before you do.
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