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writes:I would like some opinions from parents:- Would you ever tell your child that you didn't love them? And be completely serious about it? and when I say child I mean a young child. I, myself am a mum and could never imagine in a million years saying that to my child or ever feeling that way about my lovely child. but it is something my mother told me when I was about 4 years old she told me whilst she loved my brother and sister she didnt love me and has throughout my life has always maintained she did the right thing by being honest with me. It is something I've never been able to come to terms with and I have never told anyone as I'm very embarrassed by it. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (18 August 2012):
 I guess some women are like this, I can't even begin to imagine why on Earth a mom would say that.
I have 3 kids. I love them and I tell them quite often. Even when they ALL drive me nuts, I still love them more then anything else in life.
I'm wondering if she suffered from some serious PPD that turned into a depression and blames you for ti?
NOT that, that is an excuse, more like a possible explanation.
And like Karlos said, are you 100% sure you are HER biological child? A girl I worked with had a similar relationship with her mom, turns out, her mom was not her mom. She was the result of an affair her dad had and the bio mom dropped her off at his doorstep when she was one... So messed up on all account.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (18 August 2012):
 I can totally relate; my mother shows no love to me at all & has said just as awful things to me.
Personally its probably because you remind your mum of something, which she's trying hard not to face upto.
Its her problem not yours;
i cut contact with my mother because of the same abusive behavior. Yes she is much closer to my sibling too.
You should not have to put up with that, accept how she feels and just try to move on with your life. I know its hard; but cant force people to change. Its the mother's loss anyway!
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reader, agonyauntsanonymous +, writes (18 August 2012):
I agree with karlos in that perhaps there is more to the situation. However even if there was more to it i can imagine saying that to your own child or any young child really. I have two little boys 2.5 and 15 mos. And i will always love them. Even if they were to ever grow up to be bad people, I could hate what they did and maybe hate who they are, who they become but i would never stop loving them. Thats a worse case scenario. Even if it were rape situation, i still would love the child. Its not a childs fault how they come into the world. Have you ever asked your mother why she hates or hated you? I just think there is more to it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2012): She's definitely my biological mother, when I asked her why she simply stated that I was 'a demanding baby', when she told me, she wasn't angry it was just like a normal conversation. I know she never wanted kids and I am the oldest (all really close together)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2012): At the age of 4 you would be a harmless innocent child, and I can't imagine you being able to do something that would even make her say that in anger, let alone on a serious level.
I'm thinking there must be something more to this situation than meets the eye.
I feel awkward asking this, but is there ANY chance whatsoever she may not be your biological mother? Because I don't see any reason why she would love your brother and sister but not love you.
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