A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:My best friend, is a single female, strong personality, stubborn, smart ass, and a good worker I am quite close with her, we get along well, (friends only!! ) and I have been there for a lot for in the past 11months, as friends are In the past 5 wks or so she has become quite close to her new future work partner H. H is married with a 5 yr old child, her child loves my friend and is really taken by her, in fact the child cries when my friend leaves after seeing H and both H and my friend think this attraction of the child is nice.I dont know H, have met her twice but she knows that my friend and I are quite close. H and my friend have gotten quite close, due to time spent with the new work business and share some common interests, they both have some medical issues and H has recently asked my friend to be there for her child in case H should become unwell and not be around to look out for her. H is married but has no extended family. My friend is very taken that H is asking her to be an influence in her childs lifeH is paying for dinner for my friend and giving her beauty treatments, calling her at least once a day and seeing her on a wkend at her, (H's) house and generally telling her that she wants time with her. H is very persistant, outgoing, confident person, who likes to be in control, she wants her work to be a success and thinks that H and my friend are "connected" and "meant" to be in each others lives. My freind is starting to think this now.I have no objection to them being friends, Im NOT the jealous friend, they will soon work together and we are all entitled to have more than one friend, I try to see my other friends too, few that they are.. but...this has happened so quick and H is so demanding of my friends wkend social time and calls her quite often, even when im with my freind, that I wonder why so intense the f/.ship?I cant make definite plans with my freind cos of of H, I cant talk to my friend as I dont want to sound like the bitter best freind or turn this into a f/ship competition. I do however feel a bit left out and wonder what magnet H has? I have the feeling that H may be manipulating my friend a bit? may to get the best out of my friend at work, to ensure its success, (H will really be the boss) and seems to be slowly trying to take all of my friends social time so that eventually my friend wont want to see any other freinds,(me included) just H, H and her little child who adores my friend.I care for my freind, friend ONLY! and dont want to see her hurt or used...My friend often talks about H and sometimes how "connected" they are, this hurts me.NOTE f/ship only here NO sexual feelings, just intense f/ship with H and my fr.what do I do? get on with my life? Is H really up to s/thing?sorry for the length, need advice thanks,
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