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age
30-35,
*NuSaLDiViNe
writes:I recently started a online chat relationship with a guy I met in a chat room. Things progressed and became more sexual in nature i.e. cybersex but the without the benefits of a cam, we would call each other or send IM messages. The thing is I dont know if that's the only thing he wants from me seeing as we talk everyday, at first we talked about anything,but now it almost always leads to some form of sex.I'm starting to develop feelings for him but I'm not sure if he reciprocates!I think I should also mention the fact that I never had a real relationship and a bit naive on subjects such as this. I am totally confused and not sure if I should bring up the question of what we are doing, also he's older than me (32), I don't mind but doesthis also a factor in that it's just some "fun" for him? or should I be more cautious in the fact that feelings (mine)could be hurt?
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reader, uNuSaLDiViNe +, writes (20 September 2012):
uNuSaLDiViNe is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys for the reponses,Ive decided to stop all contact with him, and try to learn from this as it's not possible to get anything fron this...Hopefully I've learned from this and won't ever consider something like this in the future!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 September 2012):
 ok you met online strike one
he's much older than you strike two
EVERY time he contacts you it deteriorates to cyber sex STRIKE THREE
you have never had a real boyfriend and are naive about this STRIKE FOUR
and the biggest issue YOU ARE STARTING TO HAVE FEELINGS FOR HIM
STRIKE FIVE
stop it. stop having cyber sex with him.
if he pushes you he does not care about you just himself
and if he does that you will have to go NO CONTACT...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2012): i met my boyfriend online. He is older than me too.the same thing happened to me but he actually mentioned he wanted to meet me. everything went fine however you just need to be sure that if you ever do meet him that he is exactly who he says. And meet in a public place.i have recently found out that my boyfriend was with another girl before me and has children with her.so i guess you just really need to know them first and be sure that they are not lying to you. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2012): He is very likely using you, if he has not mentioned meeting up or seems to keep that date always postponed. After a long relationship once when I was younger, the girl I was with liked the dirty talk. When it was over I started talking to this chick, we talk about anything to the point where I just texted her when I crawled into bed. I used her because of the pace of sexual talk from my past relationship. Your case here though with his age, more likely he is a pervert, and may also being doing this behind a girlfriend or wife's back.
All in all from a guy's perspective that wrongly did something similar, he is probably taking advantage of you and you deserve better, someone who will respect and treat you like a woman.
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