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He's a good friend, but he wants more. Am I leading him on?

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Question - (19 September 2012) 1 Answers - (Newest, 19 September 2012)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I've been texting my male friend very often these days. He is my classmate, class project group mate, and two years younger than me. From our chats I learned that he has never had a girlfriend and from our friendship I know he is very genuine and somewhat innocent. He is starting to grow on me although I have kept my boundaries other than texting. I do not meet with him outside the classroom/project and I'm not interested with a relationship with him. However I know that he likes me and has asked a mutual friend to find out if I like him back. I do just a little but I'm not interested in a relationship with him. He is my best friend and in a way a stand-in until my future boyfriend comes along. Don't get me wrong, I'm nice and respectful towards him but I think we talk excessively for two people who are just friends. In a way he is filling a void for me and I'm enjoying his company because I'm lonely. Is this wrong? I feel like I'm not doing anything wrong BUT if I care for him as a friend then I shouldn't lead him on. Should I talk to him less so he can stop hoping? Am I more wrong for leading an innocent younger guy on? Is this considered leading someone on in a wrong way? Thanks!

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (19 September 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntyeah I would be a bit less accessible for him

and i would talk about lots of other boys you have met even if you are not totally interested in him.

totally "friendzone" him.

if that's what you really want

he's your best friend

why are you NOT interested in him as a love interest?

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