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writes:I need some help. I just have a bad feeling about a guy I have been seeing for 3 months. When we first me we hung out 3-4 nights a week and some weekends. But even back then the weekends were hard to come by. If i text him on a sat he takes hours to respond or will text after 7 pm. Where has be been all day? He would tell me he works...who works 7 days a week...well maybe someone but you cant find a time to text. He never askes me to do anything on a weekend night and when he did he canceled suddenly. I see him during the week days after 8 pm. He is 41 and lives in his moms downstairs apt and he will sometimes sneak me in and I find it funny he has to hide me. Cant he have friends over? So somethings are not adding up. Does he like me or am I just sex? I am thinking I am just sex since we just go to his place watch movies and I sleep over and I just feel hidden. I asked him if he saw us in the near future hanging out doing outside thing in the summer and told me summer is a long way off and lets see how things develop??? What is that? You cant say yes or no? Then he tells me but if I find someone who I want to do stuff with them go ahead. So I am thinking of texting him and saying I wont be seeing him and wish him good luck and not even explain. His loss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2011): I've seen your multiple posts about this same guy. I would like to preface what I say with the this: I've been played before and I know how humiliating it is. It is better being single than being played.As much as he might or might not be "full of it", you aren't exactly being reasonable either, because the way he treats you obviously bothers you but you keep going back. Also, you won't address any of these many very reasonable questions you have had about him TO HIM. Instead you direct them to us. We can empathize, we can even judge him from a far, but they are only opinions and advice. You need to make the decision about whether you want to stay with him or not and whether he's worth your time. No one here can make that decision for you:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-said-the-wrong-thing-now-hes-ignoring.htmlhttp://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-are-men-players.html
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (6 February 2011):
Instead of asking him if you two will be doing outside things you need to ask him if he has a girlfriend or wife because that is obviously what it is. Maybe she was sick of him and cut him off. He may be lonely but still wants her that is why he sneeks around with you because he does not want her to find out. I am sure it is nothing personal against you just very bad timing. But, it is clear he is not available.
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