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writes:This is a strange questionMy man (of 1 yr) who is kind, caring, gentle, fun, etc.Has what I think may be a problem...Hard to put in words.But if he thinks someone is Disrespectful he overreacts even if it was unintentional.His reactions are not violent or yelling. He just gets so upset, so emotionally quiet and retreats and this lasts. And the majority of the time things that have happened no one would even think about. Sillly stuff.Just to let you know I am wildly in love with this man. but one time he got upset w/ me - 3 weeks of not talking to me.I guess I have two questions:Is there anything I can do to help him change his behavior? (I try but he won't talk)Or is this a Big Red Flag?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2009): I don't think you are going to get good or accurate advice unless you can give us SPECIFIC examples of what you are referring to.
Because there are always two sides to a pancacke, I only get your interpretation, but no clear evidence of why you think that way.
Give me an example or two and you will get a better answer to your question.
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reader, Jennie10 +, writes (9 October 2009):
Thank you I think you are right.
It is emotional abuse
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (9 October 2009):
I would say that by the way he reacts to these things, yes it is. I wouldn't say necessarily the getting upset at silly things that most people wouldn't, even I do sometimes. But not talking to you for 3-weeks, that's a problem. He shuts down communication and uses that as a form of punishment and that's emotionally abusive. Also, when you try to help him and he won't talk about it, that's a problem too. He has a serious problem communicating and that can lead to even bigger problems. Honestly, as far as helping him, I don't think there's much you can do. It probably has something to do wish his personality, and if that's your personality then there's little you can do to change it.
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