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writes:Reposted as I think accidently clicked 'unsubscribe from answers to this question'...Hi, I am a 24 year old male from England. I am quite a good looking lad and don't really have any problem getting the girls, the only problem is I am confused as to what turns me on at the moment.Since i was about 15 I have fantasied about silk and satin ladies underwear and the idea of being forced to wear them. I even went through a stage of getting some then wearing them just for pleasure, not as a normal item of clothing. I then met a girlfriend at 17 and did nothing and thought nothing about it. It was more the pleasure of seeing the silk and satin on her that i liked and she knew it. I was with her for about 3 years.But after we broke up I found a pair of her silk knickers and I tried them on. It kinda has spiraled since then. The next GF i had one night actually wanted me to wear a pair of her knickers as a joke i think (she knew nothing about my fetish) and that was awesome, however from then i subtly let her know i liked it and i think that turned her off completely and now we are not with eachother. I don't own any pairs now but often think about it. My picture porn collection on my pc is all ladies in silk and satin. When i think sexual thoughts, the only way i am finding that i can get aroused is if i think of being dominated, force femmed or humiliated in some way. It started with just the knickers and being in them and having normal sex, now i imagine being fully femmed and humiliated in front of people. Each web site has led me to another, i like reading stories on it and the fetish has now spread to... small penis humiliation, strapon (not imagining it in a gay way but as a humiliating act being performed and the woman laughing.I have also for some time now been going to sissy chat rooms as such and roleplaying fantasies where i have been hypnotised and are 'forced' to carry out acts that the chatroom dom wants e.g, 'go put your housemates knickers on' etc etc... but some far more humilating. I would then pretend to go along with it. I am confused as to what i can do about this. Is there a way to maybe reverse it, like maybe become a more dominant person? I would love to live out one of these fantasies but I can't see how much of a future they have if i want to start a family or have a normal relationship, let alone what my family and friends would say if they found out. I guess there are a couple of questions here, but more just for me to be able to write out what i am going through and to see if you have heard of it before? Thank you in advance.
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reader, Arkiteck  +, writes (21 February 2008):
YOU'RE A FREAK MAN!!!! lol. No, J/K. I actually have a couple of serious things to tell you. First off, what you do behind closed doors is your business. No one can tell you how you should feel except yourself. As long as you're being healthy and not hurting anyone (and if you are I HOPE you have a safety word!!) than go for it. What floats one person's boat may/may not float anothers.
Secondly, you said you go on websites and chatrooms w/ other people who are into this kind of stuff right? Well that just proves that there are others out there that feel the same way you do. The next step is to find one you can meet and have a relationship with. I'm not saying it will be easy but anything worth having is worth figthing for.
Don't think you can't have a relationship or a normal family because your likes are a little abnormal. And don't think less of yourself because of this. I myself have a shoe fetish, I love seeing women in high heels, but that's another post all together, but i know that i can have a regular relationship as long as I find someone comfortable with that. Same tree different forrest.
You're built the way that God (or whatever religious figure you worship) designed you to be. It's not "wrong" just "different". Just find others that are into the same stuff and you'll be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2008): nope, theres nothing you can do apart from stop thinking about it. i am also very fetish
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