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writes:Hi Aunts and uncles, I just wondered if there is any truth in the saying that to get a man to want you, to have to stop chasing him. I have been with this man now for number of years and every time he goes quiet I chase him and chase him, which seems to push him away. Once a long time back I didn't chase him, at first for few months I didn't hear from him, then I did, all the time... anyway, me and the friends are debating the matter and wondered if it is true, if you leave alone completely they chase you in the end Cheers xx Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 January 2010):
Yes, sometimes. But not always. He might suddenly realize that he adores you, or he might not even notice. The only way to find out is to pull back and see what happens. If he loves you, he'll suddenly make an effort.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (7 January 2010):
Yep.
If you chase a man and nag him to stay with you then yes he will agree, because it's easier, it makes you leave him alone, and he gets sex / girlfriend on a plate. Plus he knows he can do pretty much what he wants and you'll forgive him because you are the one wanting to be with him.
You'll run around and mother him and all will be well. If you like being in total control of the relationship then maybe that's a good thing.
It's far better in my opinion to have a man who's willing to put the effort in to chase YOU, and have a relationship where both of you are always a little on their toes so you keep up the romance and effort levels, rather than settling into a rut.
Some people like ruts, and jogging bottoms and xfactor on the sofa though, so I am aware that it's different for everyone.
Good Luck!! xx
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