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writes:Is there any hope of me and my girlfriend getting back together? I have been living with my girlfriend for 4 years now and we have a beautiful wee girl aged 2 . About 6 weeks ago she came in and announced - Ive something to tell you - Im moving out. Straight out of the blue. I was convinced that she had met someone else but this she strenuously denies and I now believe her. Says she wants to be on her own. She works 3 nights on and 3 nights off so we didnt have much of a life as on the 3 nights off she basically caught up on the missing sleep from the 3 nights previous. I suggested a complete break off and that other than handing over our wee girl that was all we would see of each other. She then answered back but what If I want sex? That was fine by me so a couple of times she has come round and we have had sex. Thing is we now actually see each other more than we did before but she still insiste "she wants to be on her own" Tonight she was round for dinner and she suggested we cut off all contact as she thinks shes leading me on by seeing me.....Totally confused - ive accepted she isnt coming back but was trying to be as friendly as possible as I still olove hear dearly and would take her back in a flash. Anyone any suggestions- been through something similiar?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Yes, some of us have, and, frankly, I don't think she will ever come back to you. It's over. This is hard, but it should clear the confusion, which is the worst part of it all. You can cope with certainties, not with doubt.
Her leaving you was not "out of the blue". I'm sure this is a problem that got progressively worse over time, until she felt she had to announce what was going on. Maybe you didn't realize of it; but it was nothing "immediate", though surely you were not expecting it.
If I were you, I would try to move on, and I would only see her if I had to, for the sake of the little girl.
You know, I didn't like the game she played on you. Yes, she was leading you on, and she knew it. And maybe she does have someone by now. By "cutting all contact" she actually meant "let's not have sex anymore". She WAS seeing you more because she wanted it; now, she isn't interested. Hard, bare facts.
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