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writes:Hello all..I'm writing on behalf of a friend of mine. He's run into a mess of problems with his ex-girlfriend. Let me start off by saying that I never liked her, but because he's one of my best friends, I tried to be happy for him.After they broke up (two months ago), she came back saying that she was pregnant. She ended up having a miscarriage, and found herself pregnant again. She agreed to an abortion if my friend would give her another chance. He told her that wasn't happening, but he would pay for the abortion. He paid for it, they signed an agreement stating that she got her money, etc. She had him under the impression that she had an abortion, with the money he had given her.She is back now saying that she never had an abortion and that she'll be seeing him in court for child support, etc. A few days ago, she had used his credit card numbers to make purchases. He found out and had his card suspended. I ended up calling her out on her actions, and the only thing she had to say or do was LAUGH about how much fun she was going to have making his life miserable and how she's going to get him kicked out of school and ruin his life for child support because "he's nothing and will never amount to nothing just like his dad." Also, she had made some comments about shopping online with his card information yet again, and asked to have me thank him for the gifts. Now, I'm sorry but it seems to me that she's more concerned about making his life miserable than she is about the well-being of the child, if there even is one. To make matters worse, she told me that she had gotten pregnant on purpose and was never on birth control while they were together even though she had told him that she was. He said that she would also never let him use condoms because she was "allergic" and they were painful. She also made a remark about her living off the "county" and because of that, she gets away with A LOT. I honestly cannot believe that she is actually proud of living off the county. Is there any hope for my friend against her in court???
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answer.. I know it's more of a legal question and cannot be answered, but I was also wondering how he should handle the situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): lawyer here and you won't like what I have to say but then clients hardly ever do. Yup. He will have to pay child support no matter what the circumstances of conception were and no matter how selfish or immature the mother may have been, even if she tricked him as you say. The credit card issue is a different issue altogether and it has nothing to do with child support claims. Willingly engaging in sex entails the acceptance of the possibility of a pregnancy, deliberate or not as contraception can always fail. Your friend is hardly an innocent victim in this, especially since an unwanted pregnancy occured already once. Did he ever hear of condoms? They are quite effective and they give HIM control over the possibility of a pregnancy if he doesn't trust her. The reason he will be ordered to pay child support has nothing to do with the mother. It is not whether SHE deserves to be rewarded for her behavior but for better or worse the poor child is innocent and should not be stripped of his/her rights because of its parent's immature behavior. So this is about the child and whether your friend likes it or not the child has rights and the father has obligations. The only legal thing to do would be to question paternity hoping that the case will drag its feet but I would never recommend it in cases where paternity is quite evident as it breeds hostility and in the long run it will be harmful because like it or not these two people are parents and they are going to have to learn to coexist and cooperate for the baby. Those two people are going to be parents. Maybe it is about time they took their role seriously. If she is mentally unstable and might be harmful to the child your friend may attempt to gain custody (extremely difficult to be awarded) but I suspect this is not what it is about at all is it? It is just about dodging child support or washing his (and your?) hands off the child and that ain't happening any time soon. My advice to you as a lawyer on the other hand would be to butt out of this. You have no business calling this woman and you may end up hurting your friend's case in the long run. Looks like you are on a crusade when this is not your battle to fight. Let the lawyers handle it and keep in mind that an innocent child is coming into this world and he/she deserves better than this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): With all due respect miss, this board is not for legal advice and no one is qualified here to give it. You should consult an attorney.
That aside, this woman is a b**** and she needs a kick in her a** by life itself. Shes immature, childish, and a woman Id never ever tolerate in my life whatsoever. Good luck.
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