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writes:Is there a "nice" way to break up with someone, or a right way? I reconnected with an ex-boyfriend over facebook, and we've been dating steadily for the past 3 months. We have a lot of common interests and get along well, but I am not physically attracted to him or in love with him. I have started avoiding his calls and don't look forward to his visit next weekend (we live 1 1/2 hours apart).What makes me feel like shit about myself is that he is in love with me, says he completely trusts me, and restored some of his belief in romance and love.It kills me to think of the pain I will cause him.
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reader, Glutton4Punishment +, writes (24 January 2010):
Glutton4Punishment is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo I did it. Called him and said I loved him ... but only as a friend. That he deserved to be loved - but I wasn't the one. He had to get off the phone right away. So I destroyed him, and am going to need lots of Ben & Jerrys to get over feeling like crap about myself. I did the right thing, but it doesn't make me feel any better! Thank you all for your replies. You helped me a lot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2010): There definitely isn't a way to break up without hurting someone.
You should just tell him the truth, he'll appreciate that if he loves you. Just say that you love him as your best friend, and can always count on him, and he can always count on you.
Good luck!
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reader, Princess D.  +, writes (24 January 2010):
 Well, i understand how you feel but what do you rather: continue lien to him and end up hurting him more as time goes by or being completely honest with him so that he can find someone who truly loves him. Time heals all woundS.Would you like a guy to lead you on whom you love so much, or for him to tell you honestly.You two can remain friends and still go out and have fun togther. Be honest with him, you wouldn't want anyone to lead you on. Keep me posted.
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reader, problemmaganet  +, writes (24 January 2010):
 It will always hurt one way or another to break up with someone. That's never going to change.
What I think you should do is talk to him when he visits you. Tell him the truth, you don't like him like that but you want to stay friends with him. If he trusted you while you were gf/bf, then just because you aren't attracted to him doesn't mean that you can't keep these secrets and still chat with him and all.
Good luck!!
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