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writes:This is a long story but I will paraphrase the best I canI have been friends with this girl for almost 13 years and have had a thing for her for almost 8 years.We lost touch for a few years but have got back together almost 1 year ago. Things seemed to be progressing towards more than friends, and asked her to go out with me. A few days after, she told me about and broke up with a guy she had been dating for almost two years.It has been almost two months since then and as far as I know, I still haven't actually got an answer. We have never been physical but we have kissed many times. We hang out together quite a bit. Contributing factors to my problem are her personality, all but 2 of my friends are women, and I am clueless to signs/signals. It does still feel like their is something else here but,I can't tell if she is just waiting for me to make another move or not, or if I have already got my answer and what that answer was. I am not sure where to go from here or how to proceed. I hope this is enough info. and will be great full for anything that could be offered.Thanks
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reader, MR 2B +, writes (3 November 2007):
MR 2B is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your response.
I guess I could have clarified on her personality a bit. I am 100% for her.
She actually has a great personality, witch is part of the reason why I like her. I meant it to say that she is a friendly, kind of flirty person. Not saying that she flirts with every guy she sees or meets or anything, she has just always been a easy person to talk to. We have always been a bit flirty with each other, but up until about two weeks before I asked her out(witch was the first time we had kissed), it was never any more than just "friendly" flirting. Witch is actually why I mentioned the other female friends, as it was the same way with them also, just that nothing ever happened with them as we were/are just friends.
Again, thank you for you're response. It does help a bit. I don,t want to rush anything,as I agree that it might push her away, witch is something I defiantly don't want to happen.
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (3 November 2007):
 hello.
If she has been out of a relationship for only a couple of months then she will be weary of starting another relationship, especially if she was hurt during this time, i think you should consider yourself very lucky that she is kissing you after such a short time, i noticed you mentioned her personality if you are not that sure of her why are you after her in the first place, you are either 100 percent for her or you are wasting your and her time.
I think the best thing for you to do is stay her close friend for now, do not rush her, give her more time to adjust to the situation, and she may suddenly grow fonder of you, if you try to rush her she may clam up then she will leave you, so just take the relationship one step at a time and dont be in such a rush.
hope this will help you.
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