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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I met this girl. Amazing. I met her on tour with my group and flew her out to stay with me a month after returning home. She was sweet to me in a way that I can say she is unequivocally the best girlfriend I've ever had. And this qualification I can make after her being here for only a week and a half. I was married before as well, and it was never this good.Anyway she's living on the opposite coast and she told me in an online chat that she hung out with a guy after her summer school. He took her to dinner, blah, blah, blah, and she thinks he's fallen in love with her.Why the hell would I need to hear that? She told me as soon as we started chatting, and I ignored the statement to comment on something else she said. She brought it up again later, and I teased her about it.Details: For one, she's playing it cool because she ended a long term relationship with a dude this year. A big deal. And she got burned pretty badly as well. Two, she's now in a different city than where I met her, trying to figure out how to start over from moving out of her old beau's pad. Three, she still just met me, and is probably taking it slow. Four, it would be long distance....I'm hoping, with a lot of focus and organization, I can make her mine. It would be long distance, but it seems almost genetic for me to pursue her. She said that she wants to come out here for her birthday in a couple of months. Great, great news, right? I'm flipping out about that.So, why does she mention stuff like this? To get my reaction? To see if I'll be jealous/angry or unaffected by it? Or to simply relate an anecdote with a person she cares about?Why is she doing this? She said something before about not wanting me to act like I know how she feels or thinks. What is this that she's doing? She's mid-20's and I'm mid-30's.
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reader, Miss Know-it-all  +, writes (25 August 2009):
Girls like to be challenging and a tease. If you truly like this girl, then fight for her! Mail her roses, chocolates, take her to your favourite places! If after a few weeks, she is still mentioning upsetting topics, then widen your radar, go casual and find someone else! Follow your heart, but be prepared to loose her. Good Luck! :)
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reader, EllsworthT  +, writes (25 August 2009):
Mid-30s, and you're really still clueless? She's telling you this because she wants you to know she's really not interested in you. Now, there could be a very, very, very small chance she's trying to invite you to a threesome, but no swinger I know would go to all of that trouble for anyone half-way around the world. Move on.
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reader, princessjasmine +, writes (25 August 2009):
prob makin u jealous, playing hard to get i think. I wanna do the same thing to a guy to make him chase me more but i dont think its very nice and its uneccessary info, its also childish to do this! i still wanna do it tho lol
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