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writes: I'm 26, she's 24. So..My "girlfriend" tells me that she needs to get her own life in order before she can take on the responsibility of a relationship. She says she still wants us to date, has strong feelings for me and that she's doing this to preserve anything that we could potentially become. We went away for thanksgiving and only spoke for about 5 minutes this week. I've been a neurotic wreck thinking about this situation, but my friends tell me that I have nothing to worry about. They say my own impatience is my only problem. Is this a matter of just having patience with her or is she feeding me a line and trying to get rid of me easily? FYI - I'm pretty good at screwing up relationships, but I appreciate the advice because I'm crazy about her. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2005): seems to me that she's been hurt in the past. so she does have these feelings for you but she doesnt want to show them too much in case the same happens again. my advice is to just chill out about the situation. if she genuinly feels the same about you then all she needs is time and reassurance that your going to be there for her.
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reader, Tim +, writes (28 November 2005):
 Don't rush, dont lose patient act like a man, give her more time and more room to think and find u the most sweetest guy packed with everything a real gentle man has , if u lose patient and act like fool that way u lose all ur chances and she will think hey he acts so childish Keep ur love in ur heart for her and do exactly wot she orders u and tells u that will show how wonderful u are and how much love and respect u hold and have for her and how much u appreciate every her word even if she feeds wot doesn't make u feel good dont screw thing or lose your patient like scorpios or sagittarius, cool down and wait wot she comes up with.Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2005): Talk to your girlfriend further because it does sound like she is distancing herself. There could be a viable reason but as the other half of this relationship you have a right to expect full honesty and openess. Hopefully, she will be upfront with you and lay your fears to rest. If she has a reason for wanting time apart, then simply tell her that you "hope that some time in the future you can resume your relationship" then back off for a few weeks. Sometimes people just need a break from each other, and eventually they get back together. On the other hand, sometimes couples grow apart so far that they will never be together again. It's a huge risk but that is the way of love. This will be a test of your love for each other. But, before you panic and jump to any conclusions, call her to talk it out. And remember, the best relationships are when two distinct people share their lives, rather than when two people try to be two halves making up a whole. While you both are giving each other space, get out with your friends and have fun. Do things to take your mind off her..this may be the "breath of fresh air" you both need, to pick up where you left off. Good Luck and Take care.
Hugs, Irish
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