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We're dating but she's always too busy to get together! Is it time to throw in the towel?

Q.   I have been dating this girl for the past few months. She says I am perfect and she doesn't want to lose me, but wants us to step back. It's been weeks and we still havent gone out together. I get shot down everytime I try to arrange something. ...

A.   30 November 2005: Guess wot, she might not found you too howsome to be with you she might have other plans and or perhaps someone else to commit and spend time with, she continues to stay away from you, step out of painful relationship dont hurt yourself there plenty ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and I argue over the dumbest things..how can we stop doing this?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together 7 months, we both love each other very much and we plan on spending the rest of our lives together. Yet, it seems the past month or so we've just been arguing and fighting over the dumbest things. I'm not sure ...

A.   28 November 2005: One of u need to grow up and when one is fighting he or you better change to topic and dont press things too much otherwise this relationship will not have a happy ending, try to find the cause, make sure there is not any other pretty girl in his ... (read in full...)

I fear intimacy, so I trust no one.

Q.   I am 24 and am scared of intimacy for the fear of getting abandoned and hurt. I can trust no one. I believe ppl are too much cruel for my tender inner self. Please advice. ...

A.   28 November 2005: U sound u been hurted so badly, dont cover the whole sun with two fingers, if u have met the wrong person time will heal ur wonds and u will learn how to trust people and how to find love in someone very special who is living in this planet and ... (read in full...)

I'm worried about seeing my girfriend again, now that I live far away.

Q.   Me and my girlfriend live miles from each other and phone and email every night but I am worried I won't see her again as I live with my aunty now. What can I do?...

A.   28 November 2005: Don't worry, as long as u trust her ur love will never dies how old is she, if she is mature anything could happen ;) I can't trust mature people, as I read a post a mature 29 year old married woman was having sex with his bro after a night out, ... (read in full...)

My long distance girfriend wants to get back together again...should I go for it?

Q.   My ex-girlfriend has resurfaced in my life after a year and a half of being apart. We were together for 2 and a half years, but she moved to pursue her career, and couldn't handle the distance and broke it off. Now, she's been calling me, saying she ...

A.   28 November 2005: I love somebody and she is my long distance babygirl, yeah when girls call their calls has two meaning either they couldn't find as sweet and lovely anyone else or they been played by their new b/f and turned down and now they want you coz you neva ... (read in full...)

How do I make him want me again?

Q.   I want to do something special for my husbands birthday... I can count the number of times that we have had sex on one hand in the last year, and if I use both hands thats about how many times we have in the past 18 months. I'm really confused ...

A.   28 November 2005: HMMM Try to book a sexy eastern european girl prettier than youself for a surprise from an esscort angency to join you and give him more pleasure only for one night stand on his birthday make sure he isn't asking her for her phone number other will ... (read in full...)

I'm not lying, but he won't listen to me!

Q.   I'll try and make this as short as possible, well I am involved with this guy my ex hes such a nice guy and we still love eachother very much, but, i went out last night and ended up out later than planned. Well he turned up and he and my friend ...

A.   28 November 2005: make ur mind dont play tom and jerry games in a relationship to get more pleasure in bed by having two guys my ex is so nice but my b/f is excellent try to have two guys that isn't wot a nice girl choose to do, you are not a blue movie actress ... (read in full...)

We broke up and it's nearly impossible to get over him. Please help!

Q.   My past relationships I have found it very easy to get over a guy and move on. My last boyfriend of two years ended about 2 months ago. Ive been thru every emotion possible! It seems nearly impossible to get over him. I don't want to get over ...

A.   28 November 2005: Move on and leave him alone, stop playing with people's feeling and stop repeating the same mistake again and again and try to be patient and stop being too emotional stop crying when you didn't care and broke up, wot makes you to not get over him, ... (read in full...)

We're engaged but his family doesn't like me!

Q.   I've been dating a guy for quite a long time now, he proposed to me, but his sister doesn't like me and has a strong impression on him, not changing his mind, but just making him angry. His mom is the only one in his family that he really gets ...

A.   28 November 2005: Seem more asian sort of relation son is in love but his momi doesn't like her son's fiancy coz she might have had some body else for him in mind to do an arrange marriage. no hard feeling and so sorry, you shouldn't take away their only son or bro. ... (read in full...)

He's a great guy but I don't feel the spark, after dating for a month. How do I get out of this?

Q.   I have been dating this guy my coworker set me up with for a month. He's a great guy almost perfect really, but I just don't feel anything. He doesn't get the hint when I dodge his calls and break plans with him. He's so nice I don't want to hurt ...

A.   28 November 2005: Don't panic no harm, if you dont like him, and you dont feel anything, don't go close to him and don't paint yourself, don't keep him in the darkness either, be honest tell him, the moment of truth, let him know you don't love him, if you can if not ... (read in full...)

My 14 year old son lets food pile up in his bedroom-the stench was foul!

Q.   I am worried about my 14-year-old son. In his bedroom I had found a load of uneaten sausages and McDonald's burgers, and the stench was so foul I felt sick almost! I asked him why he collected sausages and fast food, and he said that collecting ...

A.   28 November 2005: Try to spend more time with him and try to explain to him in a friendly way nobody is collecting McDonald's burgers in their bedroom only some in wild when they hunt and can't eat it at once and it is too cold they collect it or keep it and then ... (read in full...)

Is she feeding me a line...to get rid of me?

Q.   I'm 26, she's 24. So..My "girlfriend" tells me that she needs to get her own life in order before she can take on the responsibility of a relationship. She says she still wants us to date, has strong feelings for me and that she's doing this to ...

A.   28 November 2005: Don't rush, dont lose patient act like a man, give her more time and more room to think and find u the most sweetest guy packed with everything a real gentle man has , if u lose patient and act like fool that way u lose all ur chances and she will ... (read in full...)

I've been cheating on my boyfriend with his younger brother and now I'd rather have him than my boyfriend...

Q.   I'm 18 and have been dating this 25 year old for 3 years. He has a 15 year old younger brother. And we kissed. Then we had sex. While the older brother was away we had sex for a week. Now I want to go out with the younger one but not hurt the oldder ...

A.   27 November 2005: People who cheats they get hurt always, and you are one of them, you are having sex with a under age guy and u will be hurted once he comes back and finds out.... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is almost perfect, except for hairy nipples...

Q.   I have started dating a lovely girl. Perfect in almost every way except, she has quite hairy nipples. It's fine to say I should just ignore this little problem. However, how do I suggest that she might want to get rid of the hairs, without seeming ...

A.   27 November 2005: Ask her to employ u as a hair removal agent and I suggest don't pull them out with ur teeth u might end up losing one or two teeth, as nipples hair are too strong to be pulled out by teeth try wax her sexy hairy nipples ;) Happy good waxing... (read in full...)

Oh no... I got drunk and had sex with my brother!

Q.   I am twenty nine years old. Last summer my ex husband had the kids away on holidays and I went to stay with my brother for a couple of days. His wife and kids were away. We went to a party and we both drank a lot, when we came home we drank a bottle ...

A.   27 November 2005: It does happen, I neva blame you neither your bro, the best thing is neva drink with your bro again, and neva be so soft to find yourself naked in the arms of your married bro at age of 29 thought u were 9 but u are an adult how could u commit such ... (read in full...)

Why are some men not afraid to have sex during a women's menstrual cycle?

Q.   This is a weird question, but I am very curious about it. Why is is that some men are not afraid to have sex during the girlfriends cycle, while some guys won't get near you? I know it is a very personnel matter. I just don't understand it. ...

A.   27 November 2005: It isn't safe to have it during cycle, been told by doctor, it isn't safe at all, people who wanna have it they take risk being inffected without protection and end up in a sex clinic, I will not do that it doesn't mean I m afraid of doing it, it ... (read in full...)

I think I love him but its taken him so long to text me!

Q.   hi....im sure you dont want to hear this...but this is what the site is for...so this problem all started when i started fancying this boy in the year above from me at school. i fancied him for ages, and then my brother found out somehow and told...

A.   27 November 2005: I think this guy is more like who wanna be in business till he is done and then dump and jump to another one without any explaination do u think a guy who switich from girl to girl will stay with you who txt you after months, he might wanna take the ... (read in full...)

I still daydream about a guy I had a crush on in high school...

Q.   I used to know a guy from school, and used to have a huge crush on him - of course he never knew that. But when I reached high school, I wasn't able to see him for years - yet I always used to think about him. Now I'm in my 20's and there's a chance ...

A.   23 November 2005: I think he must had a girl friend and never he did fancy yourself since, ur high school days he may love her truly. If a guy likes and loves a girl no matter if he is in his early or late teen years he will tell her in one way or other way or s... (read in full...)

We never realised the strength of our love until 10 years on!

Q.   Dear Cupid I am puzzled and frustrated and I need some help. I don't know what to do about my former girlfriend. 10 years ago, she broke up with me. Before that, we lived together for a few years and we believed we had met our soulmate. We felt...

A.   22 November 2005: It is too hard to break her new love and relationship for her and break her fiancy's heart, she is the one to blame for all this and so much pain in ur life after all no matter if she really means it she loves u but it was her who left u when u were ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is still in love with his ex!

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months. He was really upset the other day (I have never seen him like this before). Later that night he admitted to be that he has been spending time with his ex, and that he is still in love with her. She is in a ...

A.   22 November 2005: he is deeply in love with her, first comes first serves stands for first love neva dies till we die, do nothing just wait if he loves u he will be urs all ur life if not then u will be another victim despite it has cost him his past 2 girlfriendsu ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend looks at other men in front of me!

Q.   why does my girlfriend check out other guys?And sometimes in front of me.It makes me feel like i'm not good enough for her....

A.   22 November 2005: well she might not 100 % fancy u means or ur not her type watch out she could hurt u sooner or later, i dont blame u she hasn't found her dream guy ;) yet, she has accepted u temporary and waits till wot comes along before u get hurt u more keep ... (read in full...)

My ex was my rock when I needed him, but now I'm just his bit on the side...

Q.   Hi, I' a 39 year old rcoverying from cervical cancer. I split with my ex a while back when he had affair and got the girl pregnant. We have children and a business together and while at beginning seeing him most days was painful, I got over it and ...

A.   22 November 2005: kick his ass he is using u and cheating on u, princess u dont deserve a cheater husband, sounds u trust people too quickly and u forgive guilty people so easily before u punish them. Just kick his a...s out of ur life, he will never be straight ... (read in full...)

I just wish my 10-year-old daughter would act more like a girl!

Q.   I wonder if anyone could help me! I have a 10 year old little girl and she is slim and blonde and very pretty but she hates looking like a girl. She want to wear tracksuit bottoms, trainers, cap (round the wrong way}. She hates washing and brushing ...

A.   22 November 2005: well u r not wrong stop fighting with a lil baby, try to respect her feeling it is her life and it is her choice wot to wear and how to get dressed up, dont force her, never command a lil lovely girl wot to do, take her to some designer shops and ... (read in full...)

He wants to go away without me!

Q.   My boyfriend of 18 months wants to go to south america for a month on his own as opposed to 2 weeks with me - I can not go any longer as I have 3 children to consider - does this man really love me ? should I end it now ?...

A.   22 November 2005: it means to me he doesn't love u at all sorry, i can't travel without someone if i will be in love with ;) Good luck... (read in full...)

I got with my cousin's boyfriend, after she persuaded me to have him. Now she hates me for it!

Q.   Me and my cousin were best of mates, going places, and having a laugh. We would go to meet up with some lads! But a couple of weeks back (about 2) me cousin told me to set a trap up for her boyfriend. So I txted him and told him that I liked him. He ...

A.   22 November 2005: Looks she is too jealous about it, dont worry at all stick to ur Brian ur cousin's ex which is ur new boy friend and wait till time help ur cousin to get back to normal, and leave alone, u can pull the tregar and end her by ignoring her. when u ... (read in full...)

My son wants to marry a woman 36 years older than he is!

Q.   My 16 year old son has told me he wants to get married to his 52-year-old girlfriend now. what do I do? Please help me, I need your advice. Martyn in Watford, Hertfordshire...

A.   22 November 2005: i can't believe it he thinks he plays in shekespares movies, he is a legend, the whole world is full of pretty 16 years old for him who will live for him till end of his life who will help him when he needs her who will be there for him all his ... (read in full...)

She's his ex...but does he care about her?

Q.   When my boyfriend and I were first together, he told me all about a woman that he'd had a relationship with for only a couple of months but she called it off as she wasn't ready. When he told me about her, he went on about how lovely she was, just ...

A.   22 November 2005: People do cheat as well like Mr Clinton used to do lol if he loves her he will do cheat no matter wot u can't stop him if she is prettier than u or she has a lovely body no by not trusting him and lead urself to a world of confussion. No matter if ... (read in full...)

Can we be more than friends?

Q.   I have been at uni for 2 months now and have become quite friendly with a guy on my course. The only trouble is that I want to be more than just friends with him. I spent 2 hours talking to him last night but I think he was just being polite and ...

A.   22 November 2005: Dont jump too fast when it comes to date someone u love wait till he asks u, if he is too shy or there must be someone his in his life, where he lives or where he goes clubbing, if he fancies u and loves u and found u very hot and sexy he will tell ... (read in full...)

My husband's contact with his ex is causing problems!

Q.   I am having a very difficult time deciding what to do about a certain issue I am having. My husband's old ex gf from high school continues to call him every couple of months or so just to check in on him. Early on in our relationship, I was very ...

A.   22 November 2005: Is she prettier than u his ex g/f? does he call her daily, check his phone bills and ur telephone for any stranger number call and duration or hire a private investigator to find out if he likes and loves her or not at least for ur feeling and ur ... (read in full...)

How is kissing meant to feel?

Q.   Well my boyfriend and me kissed for the first time, I mean really kissed not like the grandmother type of kissing. This happened when we went back to his house after just coming from his stepmother art showing. The thing is that the kiss was not a ...

A.   22 November 2005: u feel the heat, ur body and soul is so subbmisive and u ready to give u soul to and feel love, and the smell of his/her pefume make u feel more honry and sexy and the love he/she is giving u when u kissing that special person plus ur heart beats ... (read in full...)

How can I regain his trust?

Q.   I have cheated on my boyfriend in the past but so has he!i've been going out with him for 1 year and 4 months and we've split up, seen other people and then got back with each other cos we really loved each other!He's lost all trust in me now and ...

A.   22 November 2005: Once u lost ur trust u can never gain it that is completely mission impossible I am so sorry i am a man and from my point of view. when he can not trust u no more he is using u from now and he will punish u as well one day till he finds somebody ... (read in full...)

What can I do with my insensitive ex-boyfriend?

Q.   I deal with an ex-boyfriend. We have known each other for 5 years, 3 quarter of which we were together while in undergrad. we now go to the grad school (different departments) 5 yrs ago,he mentioned he didnt want to be like his father, who is by all ...

A.   22 November 2005: looks he is not interested anymore seems very cold to me as well u better off leave him alone if he loves u for sure and for real let him come to u and follow u and hear his own words dont try those who forgets ur birthday and who is cold and has no ... (read in full...)

Can I trust him or will I get hurt?

Q.   Hey Guys I start dating an old childhood friend. I couldnt believe how happy i was. I never knew what being treated was untill i met him. I was falling for him fastly and he said he felt the same way too. Then one day out the blue his ...

A.   22 November 2005: Seems he loves her as well, coz he has a child and he is the father? if he keeps u in the darkness and stuff it will hurt u even more than u been hurted already few times here and there, when children play with knife usually they cut their hands? u ... (read in full...)

I slept with someone else...do I tell my boyfriend?

Q.   Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for nearly two and half years and I love him very much. But this weekend I went to see my friend and I slept with another guy. I don't want to break up with my boyfriend, but I feel that I need to tell him ...

A.   22 November 2005: A relationship more or less based on honesty, trust from both sides, and how much both partner care to keep it in a way this wheel rotate without being stopped suddenly in the middle of now where bang before it gets to his destination. in ur case, ... (read in full...)

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