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writes:Hi, I'm losing my mind, my relationship is strange now, we've been fighting a lot in the past 4months to 6months and mostly because of two things, 1time a month sex and she is always talking about hot guys who work with her and this weekend we add sex, but she was off the pill, so we used condoms, the problem is, we have always done without them, but she add a six condom box whith only 3, i told where were the other 3, she told me that, the box was from her small brother, that is young (16years) and she prefers that her mom finds them in her bed room, instead of in is brother room, so the constant fights, the lack of sex and now this, I think she's havin an affair, I really love her and she seems to really love me, but my friends are saying it isn't normal for a woman her age (20years), not liking sex, thats what she says to me, she doesn't like it, thats why we do ti only 1time a month. She lives in another city, about 40miles from mine and I've no proof she cheating on me, but it seems that way, what's your opinion? Is there some way to find this out? Thanks for your time...
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reader, Lily06  +, writes (15 July 2008):
Box of condoms, could be her younger brothers but seriously why would se hide them from her mom. Her brother could do that himself!! As for not liking sex~i went through that too, from 16-20yrs i was with my boyfriend and didnt want to have sex...i thought there was somethin wrong with me for not wantin it but after i broke up with him and got with my current boyfriend it all changed and i love it now.so maybe its just yer sex life isnt satisfying enough of you.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 July 2008):
 Just finding the box of condoms would make me think a little, but it wouldn't be enough for me to think she's cheating.
However, if you add the fights and the fact that she's told you that she doesn't like sex, yet talks all the time about her hot coworkers, then I have some reason to worry. Has it occurred to you that maybe she doesn't like sex "with you"?
You have a long distance relationship, so I wouldn't expect you two to be having sex all the time. And I would certainly expect the distance to put some pressure on her.
Rather than about the box of condoms or the lack of sex, what I would worry about the status of your relationship. It seems very bad. I guess you need to fix that urgently.
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reader, Scholar  +, writes (15 July 2008):
this may sound bad but...surprise visits...Is she really jealous about you, because that often reflects that she may be doing something you would be jealous of. That condom thing...don't let that go so easily. Keep a close eye on her. Think of it like this, if the roles were reversed she would be hounding you. You have given your heart to this girl so you have every right to ensure she is taking care of it...the fact she says she doesn't like sex, doesn't necessarily mean anything, she may be telling the truth, and if she is becareful, because just because she doesn't like sex, doesn't mean she doesn't have a sex drive, and she may be overly flirtacious with other guys to compensate for lack of interest in sex. Or she may just be lying, but ensure you get more information, before you jump to conclusions, because the worst thing you can do is blame her for something she never did, and end up losing her over that...
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