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writes:Everytime I watch porn, something bad is happening from the next day and it stays for a few days and everything will be fine later. But, I can't stop watching porn because somewhere in daily life is triggering me to watch porn. It maybe from TV shows or maybe from social media. What do you guys think about it? Does god punishes us for watching porn? If so, how can he forgive us? I really need it right now because it's affecting y life serious
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2021): I’d be less worried about some man made concept of ‘sin ‘ and more worried about the very real fact that a vast majority of the porn platforms support abusincr and non consentual images and videos of women and girls . Even those people who watch these platforms and not those images are supporting that abuse indirectly
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2021): Typo corrections:
"God defines what is sin, not man."
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Let nobody shame you in the name of God. That isn't godly, and not how Jesus wants us to teach. Yes, there will be differences of opinion on this. If you pray, God will answer; and Jesus will give you the truth. Not always in a voice you can hear; but in a still quiet voice, or a powerful feeling in your heart and soul. Sometimes, through somebody He randomly picked will tell you.
Be at peace, because God loves you! God wants a different kind of fear from us; the total respect of His might and power, and the understanding that He rules over heaven and earth. You are taught to respect authority and the law. You respect your parents, the police, your boss, people with power, or a judge. They have the power to make decisions or take actions that will strongly affect you. God has the power over everything; so when you "fear" Him, it's not through fright of Him as mean and nasty, but like you'd respect anyone with the power to change your life. You know your parents still love you; even if they may have to discipline you.
God "disciplines" through consequences. Meaning He corrects us through cause and effect; so we're less likely to repeat our reckless or deliberate bad-behavior to hurt ourselves, or others. Bad-things just happen, because such is life. Evil happens, because mankind is capable of doing harm, telling lies, and even killing.
Consequences teaches us the error of our ways. Guilt makes you think God is angry with you. You can't imagine in your limited human-mind how much He loves us. He knows what's in your heart, He knows things before they happen, and He knows the future. That's how and why He can forgive us; because He knows how all things will begin and end.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (19 August 2021):
 " But, I can't stop watching porn because somewhere in daily life is triggering me to watch porn."
Yes, you CAN stop watching. It just takes some SELF CONTROL. If you really don't want to watch it, BLOCK it on your phone/computer.
Porn isn't reality and honestly, it will (if it hasn't already) give you a warped view on women AND sex.
If you have used porn to be a "quick fix" to masturbate to. Maybe you need to find a better way to achieve that goal. I think most people masturbate or have sexual thoughts throughout the day. I can't tell you if porn is a sin or if you will be punished for it. BUT, if you feel it's WRONG to do, you should STOP doing it.
We all have "free will" to an extend. That means YOU can make the choice to DO it or NOT do it. YOU are also the one who has to live with the consequences of your own actions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2021): This is going to be long. You are very young, and asked a very good question. Adults may understand this better; but you can read it, and may understand it to some degree.
First of all, let me abolish a religious-myth about God's behavior. No, God does not "punish" people every-time we do something wrong. If that was the case, we'd be punished every minute of the day; because we make mistakes as human beings. God is kind, forgiving, and understands the weaknesses of human beings. He created us; so He's an expert on human nature. However, God sometimes tests us with challenges to strengthen us; and help us to develop the fortitude to deal with daily-life, and the bad-things that occur beyond our control.
When you play sports, your coach will push you to your limits. That's to bring-out the best in you. Your boss will push you to meet top-performance at your job. God has the right to push us to be the best as a human being, and one of His children. He's our Heavenly Father. It's an honor, and done out of love. Not punishment! Yes, He corrects us! Life is tough, so you need an extra layer of protection that He provides; so we can live a full and successful life. He wants the best for us. There are a lot of myths about who God is, and what He does; and we could go on for volumes dispelling the fear-mongering and falsehoods. That's why old-fashioned Christians will say "the devil is a liar!" He confuses and shames. That's not God. Unbelievers dispel it all as myth and nonsense; but that is the challenge we face as believers. God gives us the choice to believe. He doesn't force us to. If you don't wish to believe, it is your choice.
Guilt will make everything wrong that happens to you make you think God is mad at you. He doesn't like it if we willfully or hatefully do things we know are wrong, and have no concern about it. He gives you a chance to correct it. He'll help you in the process. He asks nothing of us that He knows we can't do. He offers us His assistance at all times. That's what prayers are for.
You are young and going through a natural phase in your development. Before we had internet access to pornography, there were porn magazines; and creepy black and white underground sex videos you ordered through the mail. Now at the click of a button, there it is by smartphone, tablet, PC, or laptop! You're very young; so you have yet to be able to control some of your natural impulses. Access to porn is easy and endless. People like to control us through fear and shaming; so they use God as a tool to create the wrong kind of fear. As if He's waiting to pounce on us the minute we make a mistake. That's a myth...a lie!!!
God demands and deserves our respect, obedience, and reverence. He is above and beyond anything humanly imaginable; but He loves us so much that He forgives us. He's infinitely merciful, and gives us what is called the gift of "grace." Grace means you get excused and forgiven. You get a reprieve for your mistakes; and He steps-in through His Holy Spirit to help correct our mistakes. That doesn't mean you can do bad-things, and you're covered; you have to be sorry, and not want to do bad-things. In your heart, you desire to good; because you love God. He recognizes and cherishes that in us. He put it there! Is masturbation a sin? It's a pleasure of the flesh. Flesh fights the spirit, and the spirit fights the flesh. The flesh always wants endless pleasures at any cost, and makes us greedy. The spirit knows what's healthy and enough; and what's good for you. That's why they conflict. The spirit says that's enough, and the flesh says more more more!
Do not feel guilt or shame. Do what feels right. It's hard to do, but starts to get easier. That's God chipping-in, to help us along!
Back to your porn watching. If you do anything you find pleasurable too much, you can develop a habit. Habit grabs ahold of us. It's pleasurable to masturbate, and at your age it's not uncommon to do it a lot. Having access to porn just gives it a boost. You haven't developed an adult-level of self-control; that takes time to develop as we become older. Even adults find it hard to resist our habits. There are good habits and bad habits. Bad habits will hurt us, or others.
Even if you didn't watch porn, you'd still want to masturbate. Of course, you can't help thinking about doing it; because it feels good, and your growing body is creating hormones that amplify your sexual-urges. You're growing into manhood. God knows this. It's natural and normal; but you eventually will learn to control it. If you constantly give into it, it will get stronger; and some guys do develop an addiction. Don't let that scare you, because you have to have what's called an "addictive-personality;" but not everyone is a slave to a habit, or an addiction. You can beat them, if you want to bad enough. Some things you'll just naturally out-grow; or it loses its novelty and appeal, and just becomes boring. You get older and it's like...meh!
Guilt is something that comes from darkness to make us feel ashamed. It's not the same as feeling sorry for doing something wrong, or being conscientious. Feeling guilty is supposed to make us feel nobody will forgive us, including God. That isn't true. For people who are Christians, we Know that Jesus Christ died on a cross, and absorbed all our sins; so God would forgive our human weaknesses. I can only speak for Christians, not all religions. Just don't see God in a bad-way, that isn't His nature. You should know the difference between right and wrong; and strive to do right. It's not humanly-possible to always do right. If you have been taught to believe in God; then you have to know Him as forgiving and kind. He knows what is in your heart. He knows you don't like doing bad-things or sinning. Nothing is bad, unless it goes against God; or it hurts you, other people, animals, or our planet. You'll learn over time, maybe a lifetime; and through experience, the true teachings of Christ. That is, if you're a Christian. God defines is sin, not man. You are innocent, and too young to be that mature in your faith. That's why adults use fear as a means of control and punishment. God will teach you better, Jesus will change your heart, and the Holy Spirit will be your guide and spiritual go-between. That's what we Christians call your "intercessor." Like a lawyer, He (the Holy Spirit) argues your case; and defends you against lies, to help get our mistakes forgiven and corrected.
If you feel bad after watching porn, then try to watch less of it. Not because you fear God will punish you; but because you don't like the bad-feeling you have after watching it. It means it may not be for you, or too much; if you can't enjoy it without feeling bad about it. As you get older, you'll masturbate less and less. You're too young, and takes a long time to gain an understanding of God, the Bible, and what sin really is. You will get your parent's version of it, or what your pastor tells you; but you have to be more mature in faith, when Jesus will help you develop a better understanding of what is considered sin, and what He expects from us.
My advice only applies, if you look at things from a Christian standpoint. I will not lie to mislead you; or be ashamed of Jesus. Is it wrong to watch porn? If you believe in God, anything that makes you feel bad or makes you feel you have no control over, ask God about it. He's not mad at you. He will help you. He forgives you. Unbelievers will have a different opinion; but you asked a question about sin. Only people who believe in God believe there is sin, a God, or a devil. Others will put it off as nonsense, or using scare-tactics. Let your faith and belief be your guide.
Whatever you ask of God, and believe He will do it, He promises to do it. You are young and will learn as you get older. I took time to write this, to help you and others; so you do not see the Lord in the wrong light. I will not debate with unbelievers, they have a right to their opinion; and so do I. If you were raised to believe there is a God, I will not go against that. God will bring a final-day when humans will be judged for what we've done right or wrong. Not before that time, will God punish us. He doesn't punish us on the spot; He gives us time to repent, change, and to come to Jesus as our Savior, and salvation. That's called mercy. He loves you, and will give you a lifetime of chances and forgiveness. God is good always, and always God is good.
You're a kid, and you don't need such heavy thoughts. God changes and removes what He considers to be sin. You can't do that by yourself. Let nobody shame you!
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