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41-50,
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writes:Hi - I posted about this a coupled of days ago. We are FWB for the last months, but a long distance thing. He used to be desperate to see me and we travel all around europe with the only purpose of seeing each other. We talk almost every day and he shows he cares all the time.BUT ... lately i felt he didn't want to see me. It is difficult to explain but i got the feeling something was wrong. I am going to be in his town on monday but he has a work related thing and we cannot meet. His excuse is perfectly understandable an given my short notice (i am on a business trip) i have nothing to complain about.Anyway my gut feeling was bothering me too much and after a lot of thinking i just asked. His answer:"Didn't do it on purpose, but I would be lying if I said that the break was completely unwelcomed on my side: there were starting to be too much sex for me to be able to see things straight. I guess the past few weeks helped me a bit to put things in perspective and - in the end - to get to the point where I am sorry rather than relieved of not being able to meet you next week. A bit of time to think about it was enough to understand that I do want to spend time with you, to hear about all your blah blah "What does it mean ? I am lost with his answer. Is our FWB arrangement over ? Just friends ?Thank you for your comments, I really need some perspective here !
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 I think you're reading too much into it. Don't overanalyze, you'll only drive yourself crazy trying to understand and read between the lines when there's nothing there to stress over.
It sounds like he might have felt suffocated, as if things were getting too close to resembling a relationship because you were seeing and sleeping with each other so often, and the time apart made him realize it really is just a FWB arrangement and that he wants it to stay that way. This is my interpretation though, if you really want to know you'll have to ask him yourself.
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