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writes: Dear Cupid, Okay, this may sound stupid, but it's really got me upset. I know you guys probably have better things to do than listen to the outpourings of a stressed-out, boy-crazy, overly-sensitive adolescent, but please, just bear with me. See, the thing is, I've just been...you know...living in the past lately. And by that, I mean living in the past a LOT. As some of you may remember, last year when I was in seventh grade, I fell in love with Josh, who was an eighth-grader...as well as my friend Brianna's ex-boyfriend. After he found out that I liked him, he flirted with me every single day...until I made him mad and he stopped talking to me. Now, almost a year later, I still can't get it off of my mind. The way he always used to flirt with me, I mean. Every time I go to the place that he used to flirt with me (which is nearly every single morning because it's the courtyard where us seventh and eighth-graders stand every morning), I can smell the scent of his cologne and hear his voice and feel his arms around me. Sometimes it feels so completely...real (if that makes any sense at all)...that I have to do a double take to make sure it's not really happening again (stupid, I know. But it's totally true). And whenever I see the guy, (aside from the warm, fuzzy feeling that being with him always gives me), it almost makes me cry because I miss him SOOO much. He talks to me sometimes (usually, he asks something like, "Wassup?"), but other times, it's just like I'm not even there. And when I hear the song 'Burn' by Usher, he's the first thing that pops into my mind because I consider that "our song" because we danced to it at our school Valentine's dance. I just want things to be the way they used to be. I know that that will most likely never happen, though. I mean, he's grown up since last year. And by that, I don't mean that he's gotten taller (even though he has) or anything that applies to physical growth. I mean that he's gotten, you know, more mature. I tell myself this all the time, but I still can't get over the fact that it's over and it'll never happen again. What should I do? Oh, and the question I REALLY need an answer to is, "Is this normal?" Any help is greatly appreciated.~Sarah~
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reader, lois star +, writes (12 March 2006):
this guy as grown up he sees you as afriend .he as move on this is what you have to do. this is probley your first love and will allways remain in your heartfor the first love is allways the best love. you will love again. you will turn acorner and there he will be lois star
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2006): I've had a long lasting crush before, which I'm sure you're thinking that you don't just have a crush but something more. Just try your best to let it go. You still have all of high school to get through and by then, you will both have matured a lot more and will know a lot more about who they are and more importantly, who you are. Yeah, I guess it's normal that you're having these feelings. You need to look at other people too though, because while you think he's so great, he may just want to do the whole dating thing with a lot of girls before he makes his decision on a real relationship. He may be in his hormonal teenage boy phase and that's a tough thing to wait for him through. Forget about him for awhile, date other guys if you want, and then in a few years if he's still in the back of your mind, then ask him out. You have plenty of time.
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