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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I dated this guy (andrew-not real name) 4 yrs ago but remained friends because I had a bf that time and lost contact with, I broke up with my bf (now ex) late last year after suffering a very unstable relationship with him. Now, andrew and I has a good thing going online (long distance relationship), and he is visiting me from abroad this coming holidays. He spent so much money for the trip, to give you an idea, the amount is way more than enough to spend for a higher end engagement ring. My question, is this andrew guy for real? I am very happy with him, he is the kind of guy that will make a woman ask "is he for real?" and I admit, at times, the idea that he is just another casanova comes in my head. He is just too good to be true. What do you think? He for real? Is he really in love with me? or he is just not cheap when it comes to women. I am starting to fall for him. Help, im worried Im risking it all for a wrong guy, again.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (16 October 2009):
 Trips are expensive. Let's not fool ourselves. Sweetie, he wants to see you, and maybe he has the money to spend (lucky you!).
If he's willing to drop a dime to come visit you, he's worth it.
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (15 October 2009):
 Hey, get used to it, that's normal! He likes you, he wants to see you, spend time with you- the cost of a plane ticket is nothing. You're worth it, don't forget that. I've spent that much on facial products, lol. One of my male best friends flies down here to see me and pays for everything and I'm not even dating him. Real men consider this a given.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@ L*, I wont let him down. This is it. Everything is planned out. So I will see him in December. Thank for answering.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Oldersister, you may be right. I am overreacting. I just was not used to a guy spending that much for me. This is just my second attempt for love, honestly. So as for standards, I really have no idea. My ex never had that effort anyway. Thanks for your answer. will keep in mind not to be exaggerating on things.
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (15 October 2009):
Please relax- the guy is just coming to visit you, not proposing, okay? It's hard to imagine one plane ticket costing a fortune and most people travel to see one another in an LDR- kind of a given? I may be totally off, but doesn't the average engagement ring cost about 10k? I think you are overreacting. Seriously, your standards must be kind of low if you think a guy you are in a relationship with is too good to be true if he makes the effort to purchase a ticket to come see you.
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reader, L*  + ♥, writes (15 October 2009):
if he's spending lots of money on a trip to come to see you, then he DEFINITELY is interested in you. are you interested in him? or will you let him down again? If you're not sure, you'd better be honest and upright with him, don't let him spend the money and then break his heart.
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