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*smeralda1987
writes:I been with my husband for 6 years married for 5. he got a job 2years a go as a driver. in the first couple of months it was good coming home in time then everything change he started coming home late then not coming home at all an his excuse was the truc brook down and i had to stay there and sleep and wouldnt answer my calls an we have 3 beautiful girls. lately seems like he gets anoyed by them when his home all he wants to do is sleep n for any thing he wants to fight and then blame it on me i dont now what to do i want to leave him but is so hard his the only guy i ever been with
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (25 September 2008):
 Hi,
Maybe your guy is just totally stressed out the now you say you have 3 girls and you are aged between 18/21 gosh you are both young to have 3 kids!
There must be loads of pressure too i had 3 kids under 5 and i know what they can be like kids are demanding and take up a lot of your time maybe he feels left out who knows, but one things for sure there seems to be some communication problem here i feel maybe you both have drifted apart a little it is not surprising for this to happen with 3 kids set some time together arrange for a babysitter go for a meal a drink talk to one another better still get the babysitter to take the 3 girls overnight!!
Driving can be very stressful especially if he is long distance and he will want to just sleep when he comes in i know my friend's hubby who is a long distance driver is always knackered as he does 12 hour shifts and sometimes they do have to sleep in their trucks so that's not unusual for now take it easy with him don't be going jumping to conclusiions when maybe there is no need to try and spend some quality time together and talk through some of these issues you are having your hubby is not a mindreader nor are you so talk talk talk!!!
You will be so surprised at how together you feel afterwards believe it is good to talk!
I wish you both well and hope you can get through this time.
Ginalolabridga
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reader, epifanatical  +, writes (19 September 2008):
 wheres theres smoke theres fire.. the alarm bells are ringing.. it seems the communication has broken down... so its time for you to sit him down and ask in a non threatening way whats up? ask about how work is going, how he feels about the marriage, and why the sudden change? be prepared for some defensive comeback.. and if there is.. remind him gently that if the situation was reversed.. he would be questioning you too.. you desreve to know the truth sweetee.. and the longer you leave it the worst it will prolly get.. so dont let it fester.. have that conversation soon !! i wish you the best :)
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (19 September 2008):
 It is possible. But don't make up your mind just yet! You only have sufficiant evidence to prove that he's being a grouch lately.
Maybe he's having a difficult time at work which has put a lot of stress on him lately. Have you asked him? Have you let him know you're there for him? That you'll do anything to help? It might just be him feeling very alone in a difficult situation.
Don't assume the worst just yet.
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