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writes:GUYS: NEED AN HONEST OPINION...Is this weird? Or the result of too much porn? No homophobes, please. I recently discovered alot of porn on my fiance's computer. We;ve been together 5 years and I love him with all my heart but the content freaked me out. 50% run of the mill but 25% trans/MMF, and 25% 'farmscenes"; I'm no prude and can actually understand the kinky/gross factor with some of it...but the MMF and trans is making me think he is bi-curious and can't/won't look/deal with it. Is it possible that he is looking so much that it he is getting warped and just needs it 'dirtier' and kinkier due to overexposure? Or am I dealing with someone that seems to be questioning his sexuality? We talked about it and I told him "Everyone has kinks-and all I care about is if he is faithful...just need to know if he might want to explore this bi-curiousity before we get married". He actually seemed pretty calm given the question and said it is nothing he's really interested in-just different. PLEASE help me understand...just an bored guy exposed to too much porn, or something more significant?
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reader, JAMES08777  +, writes (14 February 2008):
find a comfertable way of letting him know you "stumbled" across it, when it's inthe open try any talk about it. Even if he doesn't want to talk the reaction should give an idea of whats going on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): why not try a little role reversal? next time you have sex together come out of the bathroom with a strap on dildo and tell him you want to be the man! watch some trans porn see what happens you may enjoy it more than he does!
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reader, Mr.Worry +, writes (12 February 2008):
 Well,as a guy who watches porn(been single 15 years)I have to say,I don't think he's bi.After so long a time,regular sex scenes get kinda stale.I have watched different types of porn,mostly because it's something I've never seen much of.It's kinda like watching someone swim with sharks.You watch with amazement but you would never actually do it yourself,nor want to.I think he's ok.Now if he's checking out guys like in the mall,how guys check out girls,I might be a little worried,if not I think he's fine.Hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): Hi Hunny
Have you asked if he is interested in maybe the thought of being a woman? Now dont freak there may be just curiosity here ok, Im def not homophobic hunny or most of my mates wouldnt get through the door.
My ex used to look at alot of porn and also transexual and other wierd stuff but he was a cut above the rest, very ill hunny. I also had another fella who had gone through everything he could find out of pure curiosity, But he wanted to be a porn star so that was another one bites the dust. You need to get your own mind put at rest here, you said you have spoken but its not rested your mind. My ex use to want to be a woman and he looked at other women in a way that he wanted to look, ThatS where the transexual things camE into it, but there was a long history there which his family thought not to tell me about untill after we married and other stuff came up.. Does your b/f in anyway seem unhappy with himself, If not and he is just browsing then curiosity it is, You chat with him hun as watching is one thing but is he keeping this stuff. I would want to no for my own peace of mind. just as you do love I hope everything is ok and you sort this one out with no problems very soon TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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